When I realized that I was in control of my life (I decide what to do, what to feel, what to think), I felt a sense of new gained power. However, my mom doesn't get it. I'm not putting her down for not getting it, I just want to help her to finally see as she is approaching 60, that as hard as life is, she still has control of what she does, thinks and feels. Her way of controlling her life is binging and gambling...and pretty much blaming others for her feeling bad.
What do you think? Know anyone like that, or maybe you were like that? I just feel so helpless and frustrated b/c I get LIFE...and she's almost 60 and still doesn't get the basics.
2007-08-05 20:54:20 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She has had almost 60 years of thinking the way she does.
It wont change overnight.
She sounds like she may have a gambling problem and when you say binging, (Booze, drugs?) Until she decides to get some help with these problems, unfortunately she will not see things the same way as you do.
But you never know, keep at her. Don't give up on her.
Hopefully at (60) she will have an epiphany like you did.
~faith
2007-08-05 22:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
For my dad, I just started giving him self help books. It's up to him if he wants to change. I started with M. Scott Pecks, 'The Road Less Traveled."
He still blame all his problems on other people and he's an alkie. Nothing I can do,but once he become physically dependant on others aside from his wife, I'm sticking him n a nursing home.
2007-08-06 10:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by heartshapedmailbox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋