I'm not a mother, nor am I pregnant, but I have several friends and family members around me that are pregnant. I'm just wondering if most people have extras in the room besides the father?
I kind of feel like it's a private personal thing to go through. Maybe I'm wrong, like I said, I've never done it. I just wouldn't want to be legs spread with more than the doctors and the father in the room. I'm finding that more and more mothers are telling me in the moment you don't care. My sister-in-law considered me and my mom being the room for her baby's delivery, but didn't want everyone to see her naked so she said she changed her mind. How did you all feel?
2007-08-05 20:12:39 · 17 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I figure I'll see the baby soon enough after she delivers. Front row center in the waiting room.
2007-08-05 20:25:04 · update #1
it is true that you dont want anyone in the room, but that momemt you are not in the possition to think who is there or no.. your focus is your baby and the pain that you are going through...
that is what i experienced... and lol if you have a c-section there are 3 doctors and many nursers.. ( sorry i couldnt count them) as i was not in the position to do that.. but I feel the doctors and the nurses are so use to that that they dont remember much and abt your family members, so they also want be in so deep in the intension to see you naked.. they will be also praying for your baby to be out...
2007-08-05 20:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by Richa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I planned on having my husband in the delivery room the entire time. My parents I wanted in the room during labor, but I wanted them to leave while the Dr. was examining me, etc and especially while I was pushing. My in-laws I wanted as far away as possible. Actually I didn't even want them at the hospital. I told them that they could come as soon as the baby was born. My reasoning for this was, I feel that the birth is very personal and I only wanted to share it with my husband. Moreover, some people really don't understand good hospital manners. Case in point- I was hospitalized with a blood clot during my 26 week of pregnancy. I felt horrible! My in-laws came to visit me and instead of saying "hello" and making sure I was O.K, they stayed for an hour and a half. I was so sick, I finally had to order them out of my room and to never return.
As it turned out- I had a c-section, but I don't think I would have changed my mind about visitors during labor and delivery.
2007-08-06 04:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Starsfan14 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom was in the room when my son was born. I wouldnt mind if a good friend of relative had been there. It really depends on the person. Some people dont want anyone in there except their mom or a sister or best friend, others could care less. I would have cared (and been slightly perturbed) afterwards if I'd found out the 2 ladies from work who offered to be there for me during labor had come waltzing in during my labor without me noticing. I would be in the room for anyones delivery if they wanted me there, myself. I would love to go to school to become a midwife.
2007-08-05 20:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Somaesthesia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could admit i'm between the persons who think of little ones do not belong in a transport room for the time of delivery.... different than the single being born. :) whilst I understand its organic and all that that's a tramatic journey for adults not to show a baby who seems to already be having some rigidity with this being pregnant. Have the youngsters stay with a relative and as quickly as the child is born they are in a position back and bypass to. it is so important which you have your husbands help in this and that i might in simple terms say that to him factor clean. it is the biggest journey on your existence and you like him there for you. If he can not understand that he has his priorities messed. Has he sat down together with her and stated the child in any respect? defined that she would be waiting to continuously be his infant yet that he has room to love numerous his little ones? possibly that would help. reliable success with each and every thing and congratulations. Kim
2016-10-09 07:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by zaragosa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a personal thing between the mother and father, and no one else should be in there. The parents need to be able to bond with the baby when they are born. It's kind of hard for that to happen when there are a bunch of others in the room. If the father is not around whomever the mother wants in there is fine though.
2007-08-05 20:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most hospitals limit the number of people allowed into the room. I myself had only my husband in the room during the actual labor. My mom and dad were there the whole time, and when it came time to push, went out into the hallway. That's just something private I think. My mom helped me while I got my epidural, but only because my husband hates needles.
But even during the moment, you still have your wits about you. I remember when I had my first son, everyone was out in the hallway waiting. Well, the nurses were running in and out so they had put one of those little curtain on wheel things(can't remember what they're called) and when one of the nurses came back in, I looked up and could see my dad standing out there! I yelled "Holy ****" and the nurse hurried and shut the door. No idea if he saw anything, I'm too embarrassed to ask!
2007-08-05 20:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well when I was in labor with my firstborn I had my husband and my mom in the delivery room with me. Throughout my labor my entire family was there including my grandparents and inlaws. Once it was time to start pushing everyone was kicked out except for my mom and my husband. For me it wasn't a question in my mind on whether or not I wanted to my mom to be there. It was her first grand daughter and I was her firstborn so it was going to be very special for her to witness it and of course I wanted my Momma there holding my hand since the entire time I was in labor my husband was playing video games!!!
With my son we kinda moved to the other side of the country and I didn't have my mom with me. I ended up having a c-section because he became breech during labor so only my husband was allowed anyway!!
2007-08-05 20:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I feel the same even though you may not think of it due to the pain it is a "sight" That your "visitors" will licture for the rest of there lives. I have had 2 children with just my husband and the doctor in the room. Not really something i want the whole world seeing......
2007-08-05 20:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Iamme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 18 hours of pain and every nurse and doctor in the hospital sticking fingers inside me to find out how dilated I was I really couldn't care who was there when I was in labor. All i wanted was the pain to go away. I had my mother and my husband there, it's all I wanted, but the pastor did visit as well as my father and my aunt, all before it got to be too near the end and I was really miserable. I was perfectly fine with all of that.
2007-08-05 20:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom has been there for all of my deliveries. With my last delivery, one of my best friends was in there with me(along with my mom and husband) She actually was the first person my son saw.
Besides them I have had doctors, nurses and during one delivery I had 6 student nurses in there. It didnt bother me.
I know some people dont like to have others in the room, and some people like to invite everyone in. Its truly up to the mother, and everyone should respect her wishes.
2007-08-05 20:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋