2007-08-05 19:45:36 · 13 answers · asked by hokulani544 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know the answer already I think.
Contrary to what some people here have said, if he loved you he would have thought of you before cheating: "Oh I can't do this, it would hurt my fiance too much." But he didn't think of you.
If he can't be faithful to you now, why think it will be different when you're married?
Get out now, before you're dependent on his salary and have children.
Run from the drama, you don't need it. Find a better man, they're out there.
2007-08-05 20:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Begin by asking yourself if your fiance is a choice you have made that honors you. You know what he is like. If you've been together long enough to be "affianced" then you know what he is like. Don't kid yourself. If you don't like something about him, assume he won't change and if you can't live with this feature, then get rid of him. If it is merely an annoying habit he has (whether it's sleeping around or farting under the sheets) and you can live with it, forever, then don't worry about it. But if he has habits that really turn you off, consider that these habits will not change when you get married, will continue at the same pace/level as they are right now, and that he ai't never going to change. If he does, so much the better. But don't go into a marriage with the thought that he/she has conditions that will change after marriage.
2007-08-05 19:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over it because once the trust is broken it never comes back 100%. You will always be looking for the bottom to fall out from the relationship. If he cheated on you before the marriage it's highly likely that he will once you are. I would consider some premarital counseling before I walked down the isle for him. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-08-05 20:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him your EX fiance...before he winds up being your EX husband.
If he can't remain faithful to you now, what makes you think he'll do it after you're married to him. Better to find this out about him now, rather than in a few years, when you've had a couple of kids together.
2007-08-05 19:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
was this affair while he was with you? if yes ask yourself can you trust him again? not likely, if he cheated on you now, how is it going to be when your married? he will feel you his and he can do what he wants, besides if he loved you he wouldn't of hurt you like this. i know honey been there many times, sad but true you cant love someone and hurt them, sorry but maybe you should think before you marry him or forgive him to soon.goodluck....cindy
2007-08-05 20:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to the ones that said not to marry this guy. If you two are both in love and he is sorry for what he did then in your heart you should be able to forgive him, it doesn't mean he's going to keep doing it and it doesn't mean you are going to forget it. If you truly believe it was just sex then let him gain your trust again. Men are going to be men, I think it's in their DNA. Do what yo believe is right, but we are only human and we are going to make mistakes along the road.
2007-08-05 19:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by lady93534 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-14 03:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By breaking off the engagement and moving on. There's just no going back to where you were before.
2007-08-05 19:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by baxter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He really has to be sorry and he needs to earn your trust and you are a fool if you marry him, a da*n fool if you do until he proves that he is trustworthy.
2007-08-05 19:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't . thats wrong in so many ways. ad your worse for staying. your saying it was ok. respect your self. don't you think you deserve better. no woman deserves that. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-08-05 19:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by Aztec_Angel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋