I mean I'm sixteen and I have a four month old son. Everyone I've told is always like you're too young or the first thing that they ask is if I ever spend time with him. I don't live with him but I spend as much time as I can with him. But I have a job and send money to the mother.
2007-08-05 19:44:29 · 25 answers · asked by Austin. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I read through the other answers before I started this. Just to remind some of them....just because a condom is used does not mean that you still can't get pregnant!! No birth control is 100% effective!!
I admire you for making the decision to help take care of your baby....it is true that most teen dads are not responsible enough for that. I've known some that couldn't properly take care of a tank of fish! Just keep in mind that you will always get some smart mouth saying something stupid. By staying in your babies life and being a caring parent shows that you are older then your years. Age is just a number!
Good luck!!
2007-08-05 20:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by daisyjane416 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, good job on the sending money to the mother thing, thats showing responsibility. Yes, 16 is young, but not too young to know that you have a responsibility. Dont listen to other people, follow your heart and do what YOU think is right. You may just be 16, but most people your age would ignore the fact that they made a child, and not try to do the right thing. Hang in there, it will get better. Just try to see your child as much as you can and dont do like most and give into the teen life. You made a child, its time to be an adult, and sorry to say, but the teen days are pretty much over!
2007-08-06 02:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that teen dads are not responsible. Though quite a few are not responsible, I know one who is so amazingly awesome. I swear he is the best dad anyone could hope to be and he's a teen! So, I don't really know why most people don't realize that a person can be a responsible parent even if they are 16. I guess it's because most people only hear the bad things and the good teen parents hardly ever get credit. It's really great that you are such a good father! Though I agree with the post below this post, except I think it's fine if the parents divorce etc.
2007-08-06 02:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by C.A.S. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what I was doing at your age? Playing with friends, enjoying with parents, Studying for a good future. We had our full attention towards what a child has to do at 16. We did not run behind a job or money for any thing. When ever we needed some fun money we took help of parents. When you are good to them and at studies, parents will not think twice to spend their whole life earnings on you. Remember, you are spoilt of your young age.
I never even had a boy friend till I was 21. My hubby never had a relation till he was 25. Today I am with my 2 sons and husband. We have a very settled life style. Children are very happy and they get what they need, because we have a considerably good income as well as savings. Me & my hubby are together. Are you with your wife now?
Did you get my point? Now you can judge how fool you are to be in a hurry.
I am not disappointing you. But I am not encouraging what you did. Cool. Now its your responsibility to make your life bigger along with your girl and the baby. I know its difficult to handle things financially at this age. Take help of parents. Beleive me, even if they scold you, they will not reject you, if you give then confidence that you will stand for your girl and the child in all means. Take guidance from Parents and Go ahead.
All the Best.
2007-08-06 02:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously we can't go back in the past and change your decision to have sex but kudos to you that when faced with the consequences of your decision, you did what you had to do. You grew up as much as possible and took responsibility. I hope that all will turn out good for you.
It won't be easy but the worth while things in life are rarely easy. Be a good, dedicated father for all time and you wil have a son who will love and appreciate you as well as listen to you.
Make sure you are as present as possible. Boys need their fathers in their life. And when he is your age make sure he knows that if he makes a similar choice that he should do what you have done and step up to the plate.
Statistically teen parents are looked won on. Do NOT listen to the naysayers. Just keep working hard and learn to be a great father. If you need help go to dads you know that are good and ask/follow their advice. Do what you know in your heart is right.
Best WIshes!
2007-08-06 02:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Too Blessed To Be Stressed! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people think like that because many times, the father runs out of the mother's life as soon they figure out that she is pregnant. Plus, many teen dads think that they are not ready for the responsibilities of a baby. I don't listen to those kind of people, they are just being judgemental. Only you know how you can run your own life, no one else. You keep up bring the great father that you are. :)
2007-08-06 03:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by caligirl_1989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were 18& 19 when our daughter was born. If I had a dollar for every person that said my man would never take care of me and I should explore other"options" (abortion!), I'd be rich. Nine years later we're still going strong. My parents were the most unsupportive and I still have to resist saying I told you so when I see how they look at her. In the back of my mind I will always hear "explore all your options- you don't know where HE will be next week..." Good thing I didn't listen!!!!
2007-08-06 16:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most responsible 16 year olds wear a condom. Don't get a girl pregnant and go to college to get a good education. Getting someone pregnant at 16 and it being a responsible thing to do just don't fit together.
2007-08-06 02:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm proud of you! I knew that there are some guys out there that do take responsibility for their kids when they become teen dads, but from what I have seen, they are few and far between. It's unfortunate, but the stereotype is there. just keep doing what you are doing and be proud that you are a good dad, no matter what age you are.
2007-08-06 02:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
most people look down on teenagers with babies, however i admire them because babies are very hard work and its double the work when your a teen. alot of people think that most teen dads run away from their problems and are always total asholes, but newscheck, not every guy is an asshole.
your doing a great job, keep up the great work!
2007-08-06 02:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by Very Very. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋