me and my husband have been dating for 2 years and we just got married last friday. since our baby has been born our relationship hasnt really been the same at home...but when we go out of town by ourselves or just are with eachother its different. how can we make our relationship the same as it is when we are alone as it is when we have our baby with us? i do appreciate your answers!
2007-08-05 19:06:41 · 6 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks for the advice everyone that answered!
2007-08-05 19:18:53 · update #1
again...im a new mom...new wife..no one wrote a book on what to expect when you have a baby and your married :P im glad people know what im talking about...i just thought i would ask to see if it was normal.
2007-08-05 19:21:03 · update #2
The key is to "schedule" enough time alone so that the times together as a family don't make you feel claustrophobic. Make it a habit to go out every 2 to 3 weeks for a night, leaving the young one with a relative or babysitter. Trust me, it's important in order to stay close and develop a long lasting relationship without the stress...
2007-08-05 19:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to ask that the relationship is the same when the little one is with you. You have to have your brain focused in on the little one all the time, how could it be the same? Be happy that you have a good relationship and that you can get away sometimes to rekindle the spark. Children change our lives forever, you 2 just need to know that it's okay and normal.
2007-08-06 02:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might help to involve your husband with the baby. Have him take over some of the caring. Getting away is good.
It is a change when a couple has a baby, however, it usually works itself out for the good if the two continue to show each other with loving attention.
2007-08-06 02:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by pattimaris1675@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you think a child was going to do to your relationship? It's hard work, you get worn out, worn down and no it's just not the same as when you get to sit around like you have no worries in the world.
2007-08-06 02:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of married coupe have that problem once they have kids. that's why people should think about it when they decide to have children, once you have children basically your life is around the kids, you give up your own life. that's why there are people "child free by choice"
2007-08-06 02:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to him!
2007-08-06 02:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jerdy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋