A man will beat up another man for touching his girlfriend inappropriately. Why don't women do same viceversa?

Question

A man will beat up, or at least sternly address/warn a man that is being physically or verbally inappropriate with his girlfriend. Why is it that women in America don't stick up for their men if it were the same vice-versa? Remember when Leonardo DiCaprio got cut with a broken bottle by some random crazy woman. DiCaprio's woman sat and did nothing. This wouldn't be the case if a man did this to his girlfriend. He'd let him have it. A man isn't supposed to hit a woman, and most men will not hit a woman. The only alternative is for a woman to do something about it when another woman is out of control. It's acceptable for a woman to hit another woman if that is the only form of resolution. Why don't women in America stick up for their men?

Women, if you saw a woman spit in your boyfriend or husband's face, or saw her being verbally abusive to him, or saw her punch him, would you let her have it? Or would you just sit there and let him deal with it himself because "he's the man"?

MachPen: I'm not talking about two women fighting over one man in a love-triangle. I'm referring to a woman defending her boyfriend because a random woman decided to pick on him and abuse him.

TERA: I find that statement about women not being conditioned to fight ANOTHER WOMAN as being sexist towards women. Many women that are physically fit, strong, and can "kick-***" would be offended by your statement. No one said anything about her fighting a man, but fighting someone of the same gender. How is she going to be "inferior" against another woman of relatively equal size and strength?

I was saying when all options have been exhausted, and the only way to get the abusive woman away from your boyfriend is with physical force. Obviously everyone wants to resolve a situation with the minimum conflict as possible. But I'm referring to women who become cowards in the face of other women, and expect a guy who can't hit a woman to solve a situation with another woman hitting him.

kjh: Please read again. Not another man "defending a woman from her boyfriend". Obiously that would be their business. I'm referring to a man defending his girlfriend from another man that's being physically or verbally abusive.

GC: 1. I'm not a woman, and I don't fight "chicks".

2. Not talking about a guy hanging out with a verbally abusive woman or "trailer trash". I'm referring to a guy that is being randomly attacked by a verbally abusive, trailer trash woman.

kjh: You got even more confusing. Simply put, a guy with his girlfriend. His girlfriend gets attacked by some other guy. The boyfriend protects his girlfriend from attacker. The end.

Answer 1

Why is everyone being so ridiculously nit-picky? I still can't get over the fact that people never answer questions but instead like to scrutinize every word rather than what you actually are getting at. Anyway, I completely one hundred percent agree with you. Girls rarely do it, and it is very disrespectful. I stand up for my girlfriend, and she does the same for me. The other day we were waiting in line for the Harry Potter book and this girl who was 14 that I was discussing musical taste with kept kicking me when I'd say something she didn't like (I was polite, she was just a brat) and her parents with her. It felt horrible because its....its like....you're a guy, you feel powerless, like you can't do anything. If I tell her off I'm an asshole and have to spend the next three hours in line with a bunch of people who hate me, you know? My girlfriend handled it. How it should be, but few do it. Anyway, great question, thanks for asking it.

Answer 2

I have always avoided the situations where I did not have any control over for myself and my protection. People who do the things as described in question in my opinion deserve everything they get. Stay at home, get an education, pick the right company and you have no more worries.

If someone has those kinds of problems, then maybe they need to find some other type of refuge so that the question should never be raised again.

Me personally?? I would not be beneath it to fight for the man I love. Be it against a man or a woman! But I choose to never have to be asked to do so.... unless I was involved in a war.

Answer 3

Every situation is different. Most people that deal with there problem in an aggressive way usually end up in prison. Speaking from experience. If you must support your self (don't have mommy supporting you) can you risk breaking a hand or other body parts. being out of work etc. That's why some people pick up a knife or a bat or a gun. Some people don't play. I have known people hit people for just mouthing off. Remember respect is every thing. I know a guy that killed six people at a seven eleven with a knife because he wanted the last pack of Marlboro cigarette.

Answer 4

First of all, you are assuming that the proper way to handle this kind of situation is to be physically aggressive. That's error number one. Unless of course you don't mind going to jail or getting beat up yourself. Two, what you see on TV is hardly ever a picture of reality. Third, I'm certain there are some women out there who would react violently, or otherwise defend their boyfriends...but let's get real: naturally, many women are going to be hesitant to do this. Most women are not conditioned to even know how to fight in a physical way. Those who do know how, or who would think it proper to engage in a physical fight, are few. What would be more likely to happen is that if a woman engaged herself in a fight, esp. toward an aggressor, when she herself is NOT an "aggressor", she's going to come out of it on the losing end. What purpose would this serve? Why not involve the proper authorities to handle such a situation? (That question is for both genders!)

I edited my answer: I think how I stated my answer originally might have been a little confusing to those who read it. I realize we're not talking about women beating up men....but women fighting other women. And no, I don't believe I'm being sexist toward women by saying that there are fewer of us who've been conditioned to physically fight (and consider it an appropriate response to a problem) than men... It's just the truth.

Answer 5

Most women would not be abusive to my husband, simply because of his personality and physical presence. However, if one should decide to act that way, I would step in immediately. He is a big boy, and doesn't need my help, but we are a team, so someone who attacks one of us attacks the other by proxy. He sticks up for me, and I stick up for him. And realistically speaking, while we both have tempers, I am the one who is more prone to violence, and I would be the one most likely to physically engage a woman who was being abusive to him. I imagine that the most likely scenario would be him physically removing me to stop the fight. Since I grew up fighting, the urge towards violence was never quite conditioned out of me by people explaining my proper role in society based on my gender. I have fought more than once, and I am willing to fight again. I don't go around picking fights, but I would not hesitate to go at it with someone who started one, regardless of their sex. If it were a man, however, I would be a little more willing to let my husband handle it. If it were a woman, I would handle it myself.

All of that really just exists in the realm of the theoretical however. We don't hang out with people who are prone to being physically abusive (or abusive in any way, for that matter). And our personalities are such that people rarely say anything cross to us; we are perceived as "nice" people.

Answer 6

Well, LycraSpandex, perhaps you can whip any chick on the block, but there are some of us smaller women that wouldn't be able to, even if it did offend our sensibilities.

In my estimation, any woman that spit or was verbally or physically abusive in public is probably what we refer to as "trailer trash", and I probably wouldn't be going out with a guy that associated with such.

Have a nice day.

Answer 7

I think you'll find women defend their partners all the time, just not *always* with fists and broken bottles.

Most men also realise that fighting their way out of a difficult situation is not always the best way to get the result they want.

Cheers :-)

Answer 8

Interesting question. I don't know why women don't do that. I am usually the first to jump to my friend's defense, if it is warranted. Hypothetically, if some woman were being inappropriate with my boyfriend (given your above examples), there would most certainly be a confrontation. Most people don't mess with me or my boyfriend as we don't draw that kind of attention to ourselves, but I have been known to let her "have it" if need be. I usually don't need to resort to violence, but if it is absolutely unavoidable (life or death situation) then regrettably I must use force.

Answer 9

HELLO!!! Women do this all the time. Girls are actually more possessive and jealous in regards to their men than boys are. They may not physically fight but girls are willing to gossip, spread rumors, trash talk or even hair pull to fight for their man.

Answer 10

It's about upbringing. Men are conditioned to act a certain way and so are women expected to act a certain way in society. From birth, it is a scientific fact that aggression levels are the same in male and female babies. However, socialisation conditions the sexes to perform in certain manners.