too casual sex? am i the only one that feels this way?

Question

okay, for me personally it seems like sex has become such a casual "event" in my life, and in my opinion kissing is more personal than having sex with someone! does anyone else feel this way? (oh, and im 25 & have just recently found my "person", so im not currently sleeping around, but in the past, well thats history, lol)

im just wondering if im the only one that feels this way... i feel like it goes from sex, to kissing, to oral sex... with oral being the most personal?

okay, maybe i should clear something up.. i am only sexually active with one man right now (and i have 2 kids under 2, lol... so no, i wouldnt rather watch oprah, lol)

Answer 1

Well personally I had some relationships that ended up being {friends with benefits} and it wasn't like that at all. I don't know if it's because I'm a guy and I was 19-20 but to me back then, kissing was the same as having sex or oral sex, it was for the fun of it. The only thing that changed was the fact that longer I was into being friends with benefit less those actions of affection had meanings. Maybe French kissing was the most personal unless it was for foreplay or during sex. I could have easily kissed a friend to say goodnight but I wouldn't have French kissed her, didn't seem right. Foreplay, oral sex were pretty easy to do since it was just for the fun of giving each other pleasure. I could've gave oral sex just for the fun of it, also knowing the differences between women in that situation. 69 was something done quiet often before having sex.

So I would say kissing,oral sex, sex, french kissing.

Hope it helped you to have a different point of view, a man's one.

Answer 2

I get what you're saying, and I agree. Sex has become so mundane-everyone is doing it repeatedly with someone else. Kissing is personal, because maybe you have to look that person in the eyes and see yourself in them. Oral sex isn't as personal, men like it and they can get it from their gf/wife or go out and pick up some stranger they are attracted to and do it that way and its not really cheating, there were no feelings and no penetration.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

This is best answered by teh french saing "Chacon a son gout" = To each his own... do what YOU feel is comfortable , "proper.

Oral is considered personal bc u have the persons sexual unti in your mouth , however intercourse is even more personal as not only are you taking internally, freq face to face, but you are able to create a new life that way.

dont worry about labels, play safely sanley and consensually and just enjoy sex whichever your prefernce, is healthy for you

Answer 5

I'm not into the idea of making sex "casual" unless I was married to the guy.

I just feel that sex is best left for marriage. I think it's become too casual nowadays.

Answer 6

In my experience, sex with average emotional attachment can be a fun pastime in a relationship, but when you love and truly adore your partner and you are actually working at keeping the love strong(by not getting lazy, habitual and inconsiderate to your lady), then sex is so intimate, so incredible and so fulfilling that it really is the most personal act between you.
I`m not saying it`s INCREDIBLE every time but on a whole it`s much better when you are deeply in love than a string of casual lays!

Answer 7

I'm a virgin so I wouldn't know, but it does seem like society is being lax on sex lately. They depict casual sex all over the TV screen. But kissing is still depicted as an anticipated thing, very important.

Answer 8

Be carefull! Casual Sex can lead to Casual AIDS. Your Sex-Life us your Own. If you think you are too Easy then you are. On the other hand, if you think you are Not too Easy, then you are Not. This is a personal decision.

Answer 9

Personally, I feel like sex has lost all of it's meaning alot of people in society, and people cheapen it by handing it out to whoever looks fun at the time. Sad.

Answer 10

I've never had sex, but it seems like the media and everything has made it that way, it doesn't seem so far-fetched. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if it became as common as going to the bathroom.