would you have an abortion? why and why not?

Question

what if the father says hes not ready and tells you to have one. he didnt leave you or anything but would you still be with him? would you have an abortion or keep the baby?

Answer 1

Well this did happen to me...we got pregnant, and my bf told me he wasn't ready and that he wanted me to have an abortion..(despite the fact that we are both in our 20s and have been together 3 yrs)..Anyway, I told him that regardless of what he thought I simply could not kill our baby. It was a very hard time, he moved out for a few weeks, and I faced the prospect of being a young single mother, but I knew that no matter how hopeless the situation felt at the time, I knew that when I had my baby I would be eternally grateful that I never went through with abortion just because it suited the circumstances. Our families were also putting pressure on me to have an abortion, as we are not married, both just graduated from university etc. But I stuck to my beliefs.

Every pregnancy happens for a reason, and if a woman becomes pregnant, it is her responsibility to keep her child (contraceptives do not always work, believe me! If you have sex, there is ALWAYS a chance you can get pregnant, no matter how careful you are.)

Luckily, things have turned out well for me, my partner came round to the idea, we are stronger than ever, and now we are both very excited about our little one coming in November. However, I would have kept the baby regardless of his opinion. I am so glad that I did not have an abortion simply because I felt forced into it.

Some guys may react like this at first, especially if they are young, but I believe that if they were worth it at all in the first place then they will support the mother of their child. Some just need time to come round to the idea. If a man leaves you because you wouldn't abort his child, then good riddance to him, its just unfortunate that getting pregnant is what it would take to realize what kind of person someone is!

Answer 2

I would never have an abortion because I believe that unborn babies are living humans, therefore, I believe abortion is murder. If the father won't take responsibility for the child, then perhaps he should have taken a wee bit of responsibility with birth control. There's also adoption, and don't even try telling me all that crap about kids living unwanted in foster homes. My parents were foster parents, and believe me, the horror stories aren't true. As long as both birth parents sign the papers releasing the child, there is no reason for the baby to be in a foster home at all, he/she can be adopted immediately. In fact, the birth parents can meet potential adoptive parents and pick out the ones they want to raise the child before it's even born. Anyways, I would never have an abortion, but after arguing half my life away with pro-choicers, I just say to each their own opinion. So whatever you choose, good luck to you!

Answer 3

I am pro-choice but personally would not have an abortion. If I could handle raising a baby, I suppose I would keep it, as long as I had the support of my family and a job. I would play it by ear with the boyfriend. He might come around and get used to the idea, or he might not change his mind. The best way to find out if the relationship should continue is to see what happens. But overall, it is a LOT of changes at one time, and I would not be making any really radical changes until the news had time to sink in a more.

Answer 4

No, I would not have an abortion. Regarding the baby, it deserves to have the chance to live. If you don't feel like you can adequately take care of the baby you should put it up for adoption. There are so many couples who are excited to adopt and give a child a loving home. As far as you are concerned, I think having an abortion would take a huge emotional toll on you and it would be hard to get over.

Answer 5

I, personally, would never have an abortion. As far as the father is concerned, it doesn't really matter if he is ready or not, it's done. I am sure he was more than ready to have sex! If he wasn't ready for potential fatherhood, he should have kept it in his trousers.

If he were adamant about the abortion, I would probably leave him and have the baby on my own. (I would sue him for child support, too.) I think if you want the baby and let him talk you into an abortion, you would never forgive yourself.

Answer 6

You have to ask yourself, what if the relationship didn't work out, how you feel getting rid of the baby then? I have had two friends have abortions out of their own choice and to this day it still effects them, and they think about twice a year, when the baby would have had a b-day and they day they did it. But I don't know your financial situation and is any man really worth living a life of guilt over? I know my sisters husband origanally wanted her to have an abortion, she didn't and they have been married for 12yrs with three kids. It hard and I have no clue if this helps, but make the decision for you and not for him. And ask him, why? If that answer isn't good enough, he could acting very selfish.

Answer 7

i think everyone is entitled to their own opinion, i personatly wouldnt have an abortion just because some one told me too, if i did it, it would be because i wanted to. its alot easier for someone to say "just go have one' but its not that simple. you have to go through with the procedure, the emotional and physical hurt and possibly the regret afterwards. If you want the baby, you have it. Many single mums and dads survive everyday if it did come to that, but i bet the moment your partner holds that little baby for the first time, he would wonder why he ever said that to you!!!!
so personally, if it was me, i would have the baby, and if he stayed around, great, if he didnt, you will find someone else who will love the both of you more than anything in this world!!

Answer 8

You have a decision to make that will stick with you for the rest of your life. God gave you that child and has a plan for that child. There are no mistakes by God, only "inconveniences" to people. My husband and I had 2 wonderful and wanted sons, then I got pregnant with #3... I was on Clomid for fertility and he knew this. Yet, when I was 4 months pregnant he told me that our child to come was a mistake and he no longer wanted it and that I should abort. I am dead set in my ways about abortion and would never ever choose to kill a child. Now our daughter is 16 months old and is more than a delight to have. My husband, now my ex, ran off as soon as I told him that there was no way I would do harm to my child. He still calls her "the unwanted baby" and I call her my "unexpected blessing" he has nothing to do with any of our 3 children now, but I know that God's plan will prevail with or without their father around. Please consider giving your child up for adoption rather than killing it. Adoption is a loving way to give your child a better life and the love of parents who are so eager to share it with a child. Abortion is just more convenient and selfish.

Answer 9

I would still be with him if I love him, it depended. If I wanted to keep the baby then I would keep it but if I also agreed with him then I would have the abortion. I mean, I know it is up to women to keep it or not but I do feel bad for guys since they have no say and it is partially theirs.

Answer 10

Never abort. I told my loved one to do it once. I never forgave myself for it. Neither did she. A baby is a gift. If he is not willing to be there for you im sure someone else would. Never give away the life of the beautiful baby away. I made that mistake once and I will never do it again. Dont put yourself in that position. It can be harmful to you as well.