Do any of you have a sucess story about alcoholism/abusive partner?

Question

I would like to know if any of you went through a drinking problem and were able to defeat that addiction and now live a happy life with your family? I would also like to know if any of you had an abusive husband and were able to get him through anger management and now live a normal life without having to worry about him ever getting mad and trying to hurt you? The reason I am asking this is because I am going through both situations my husband is an alcoholic and he also has an anger problem. Since Im pregnant and our baby is due in about 2-3weeks I have came back to my parents home since he tried to break a chair on my 37 week belly. Im not sure what is going to happen with my marriage, for now Im trying to focus on my baby and I want to know if there is hope for my marriage to change or better said for my husband to change.

Answer 1

I was a heavy drinker some years ago. I almost got my husband fired from his job, my daughter missed most of kindergarten because of it and created much more drama that I can write about. I just sort of woke up one day and realized I had to stop this. Most people dont do this. As for the abuse, I hope your husband gets help and I hope it works out for you. If he doesnt get help, please dont stay and daydream that you can make him change with your love!? It will never happen if he doesnt want it bad enough.

Answer 2

I'm sorry I grew up in a household where my dad died from alcoholism an was abusive to everyone who care about him. I have a Masters in Vocational Rehab an unless HE confronts why he drinks how it effects him and what is causing his anger your smart not to be with him. Regardless of what he says you need to be responsible for your safety and that of your child. When he starts treatment for his drinking and starts working on his anger issues you need to set rules and not waver even a little be supportive but from a distance for at least a year. Do therapy yourself so you learn ways to deal with out being confrontational. Then I believe you will have the possible success story that someone else will benefit from and you wont have to do I wish I had done this that or the other to have prevented any possible consequences that your child may suffer.

Answer 3

Want to hear a real success story...?
Pregnant woman gets beat by abusive husband and she walks out and stays the hell away until he joins a recovery program, and learns to control his temper...and doesn't let him ever lay his hands on her again. That's success. Don't worry about him..worry about you and your unbborn child...and no matter how much he swears it won't happen again..do NOT trust his word.
Forget about everyone else out there and do what is best for you. I suggest you join FA (Families Anonymous). It is a 12 step program geared to the ones in love with someone with a drug or alcohol addiction. They will teach you excellent tools on getting you healthy, and dealing with what you have to deal with. Go to a face to face meeting in your area, or join the online support meeting. You cannot control his actions or behavior, but you can control your life from this point on.

Answer 4

Leave him. Leave for yourself and your unborn child. Stay at your parents and never go back.

Violent alcoholics rarely changed. Of the very few that do, stop drinking, the damage that is done to the relationship often prevents it from being long term or even successful short term.

Accept your parent's help and leave him now. You have the perfect reason to do so, your unborn child. I wish you strength and lots of Good luck.

Answer 5

The success of over coming alcoholism is very rare. I lived it for 25 years and finally succeded in leaving him for good. I am remarried 14 years now to a good man and I am happy now and my children are to. Stay away from him and don't go back. Trust me you don't want to live this life because it isn't worth it. Best wishes and take care of yourself and the baby.

Answer 6

Honey, I have been there, and, am in tears as I read your post. My husband was never physically violent, but, threatened to be. I dealt with his alcoholism and his words destroyed my self esteem. HE stayed out continually while I was pregnant, threatened to leave to be a full-time drunk 2 weeks before our baby was born. This is supposed to be the most magical time of your life. You are about to give birth! You should not be worrying about someone that can not take care of himself or make good decisions. Please understand that if he is violent, your child is in danger. It is not rare for an angry drunk to flip over a bassinett or accidentally fall on a baby. You are with your parents now. I urge you to stay there. Please think about how you want your child to grow up. Do you want him to hear you yelling at one another or him hurting mommy? That can harm a child irrevocably. PLEASE PLEASE call your local domestic violence center and gather some information about stats. If he hits you, it is VERY RARE for him to change. It would be nearly a miracle.... Please care for your baby enough to stay gone, even though it is hard, your ONLY obligation is to that baby- he is a blessing. you can do it alone, honey.

Answer 7

take that baby and dont look back. my sister did not leave and now they have 4 children and after 16 years she still deals with it. stay strong and know you and your new baby are worth better. they never totally change. you need help for self esteem if you even think about going back. if the nurse finds out he has a problem, cps will be called. that is how serious it is. be glad you have a place to run to.

Answer 8

the only one ive ever heard of happy ending was johnny & june carter cash

Answer 9

wait until the baby is born and after that talk to him privately about the matter when he isn't drunk.