Me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time. We had been on and off for 3 years.
it was my first time but not his. everythiing went fine. but it seemed like i had no feelings for him when we had sex. I didnt feel in love anymore i didnt feel the same. i dont understand i was so in love with him. we were so in love. 3 years of both of out lifes. i dont understand how my feeling could change. i dont even feel in love withhim anymore. someone help please.
2007-08-05 17:05:18 · 8 answers · asked by lost_in_love_still 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
then we had sex the next day. and it was still the same.
2007-08-05 17:10:34 · update #1
sex is a big step in a relationship. sometimes it can ruin things. it causes all sorts of emotions. maybe you should wait awhile before having sex again. you need to figure out your feelings before you slip up and end up tied to this guy forever. you have been with him for 3 years and he was your first. you probably are scared because you haven't experience anything other than him. i went through the same thing with my guy because things were getting really serious like marriage talk and i was scared because outside of him i haven't been with other guys so i was thinking how would i know he is the one...well you just do. Good luck and i hope you make the right decision.
2007-08-05 17:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was ur first time so don't worry about it because alot of people feel like that the first time so just wait until the second time and if you feel the same way then you should just tell him how you feel and see where it goes from there.
2007-08-06 00:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by ixigirl4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm..it mystified me how on earth you guys can make love during an on-off relationship...as it is your first time, then you should give it to your husband after marriage and not as simple like that..cherish your purity girl..
so now, i hope you can stop doing that (have sex) as it is a very shameful thing for doing it with someone you don't love..
leave it for others who will cherish you and whom you will cherish..
feelings can change when you haven't found your true love..and true love is hard to find..i am a very lucky guy to find myself one when i was only 19..now after 3years, we are going stronger than ever..i hope you would take your time finding another one..never rush..
please get off from him..break up for once and all..no feelings mean no love..when there is no love, there is no point for getting together...it is as simple as that...don't take things so complicated...
get on with your life..there is still a lot of great things waiting for you..still a very bright future ahead...may you be blessed with all the things that you wished for...
2007-08-06 00:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by agu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you had no feelings b4 sex.you just had an urge to find out how sex felt.at least you know now how sex feels when you have no feelings for the person.live and learn.don't mean to sound cliche,but,you don't know what you had until its gone.you know what i mean.you should cherish what you had.you'll know when the time comes to allow the man your love. he should be humble and honored.you should be more grown up.you've got your whole life.society as a whole has no prob droppin there pants for anything.don't be follower.
2007-08-06 00:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were expecting more ! it's never what we thought it would be!! your confused and need time to talk to him! so he can help you feel better maybe! it can make you feel different the first time and even sad !! You most likely still love him if you really did to begin with!! you just feel diferent! your feelings will work out in time! just wait and see how you feel later on , if this just happened? you need to talk to him for sure! about your feelings! you could be mad somehow deep inside , at him? maybe you wasn't ready ? you need to give it time.
2007-08-06 00:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex can be embarrassing. It's not designed to make you feel better about someone. I think that is where most people go wrong. It doesn't make you feel closer and it's not supposed to. It's an expression of how you feel.
2007-08-06 00:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by sarah a 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well thats something you have to answer...but maybe he's just not good at sex...lol JK. But you need to find out why your feelings have changed. Your the only one that knows.
2007-08-06 00:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by fireman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then why did you give up your virginity to him? you do know that you can't get that back, right?
don't waste anymore time with him. i hope you used a condom. it would suck to get an STD or a baby from someone you didn't love.
2007-08-06 00:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋