so i met this guy the other day and on the first date we start making out. which is fine..he's caressing my hand, kissing my neck blablabla...then he starts pressing his u know what on me to the point that i can feel it. now i never gave him indication that he can do this in any way...i called him a perv for doing this.
i no longer want to see him again.
am i over reacting..was i wrong.
2007-08-05 16:59:18 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we had our clothes on on his couch
2007-08-05 17:01:02 · update #1
If he had his pants on.
You were totally overreacting.
2007-08-05 17:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Raven 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
I think when you are that heavy into making out that things most likely tend to move along. I think calling him a perv was not a great thing but then again I wasn't there! I think that you could have handled the situation a little different in saying that you were not ready to go any further. He may have thought you all were headed in that direction.
I don't know since I wasn't there. Sorry that happened to you though.
2007-08-05 17:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Susan Goodknight 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you were making out at the time he probably thought it was Okay. I don't think he was a perv. It was out of your bounds but again, you were making out so not like he can read your mind and know your limitations.
I think you probably should have let him know that this behavior was out of bounds. But you did over react IMO. If you let him know it's unacceptable and beyond your boundaries and he did it again then you would not be over reacting.
It's one thing to tell a guy he is going to far which every one has a right to do, it's another to call the guy a perv which really was a bit much. Say no, as you should when someone crosses the line but calling him a name because of it really wasn't very mature on your part. Lots of people do this when making out, it's not uncommon and you were on his couch making out. He had no idea how far or what your limits were. He can't read your mind can he?
Draw the line as is your right but you can hardly judge the guy for doing this when you were making out. He wasn't forcing himself on you, he stopped when you said no.
2007-08-05 17:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You may be overreacting a bit. If he stopped when you told him you didn't like that, than there shouldn't be a problem. Guys get horny when they make out with someone, it's natural reaction. Maybe he was just a little more into it than you were, or he misread your actions or body language and thought it was ok. Doesn't necessarily make him a perv. If he persisted after you asked him to stop, than yeah he's a jerk but if you guys were really making out, it doesn't seem like a strang or unnatural thing for him to do.
If you otherwise thought he was a good guy (you obviously thought he was good enough to make out with) give him another chance. With just the info you gave, it does sound like you are overreacting a bit.
2007-08-05 17:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by melissa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's not perv behaviour, that's natural in men! It's called an erection and the partner may feel it pressing against her body.
There's nothing wrong with that, it happens to every man!!
It's a sign of arousal and many women find it tempting while making out!
2007-08-05 17:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by *Felicia* 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
sure just a little bit he just wants some sex appeal from u its just an indication of him wanting to know if u feeling him or on the same page u shouldnt of called him a perv that wuz a little rude just say im lookin forward to but not yet but say soon dont keep holdin back cuz men are suppicous keep in mind so just keep it cool and if he really is the one for u then he will keep it cool too u know just dont assume that he'll keep it cool right away just give him time if he really loved u he will understand because thats wuts on every mans mind when hes with a girl and thats when will i have sex with her and wut will it be like hell even gay guys think that so just dont call him out of his name and just be calm about it talk to him first that the first thing and if he has a problem with givn u yo space give him another chance if it doesnt work let em go and let it go but if u think u have a thing goin with him that will last than girl go for aint nobody stoppin u go for it i hope this helped u
2007-08-05 17:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by sekou h 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Man like to push it as far as you will let them go.After the neck kissing you should have stopped him before the blablabla....got started .I'm sure he was think with to wrong head and read more in to the kissing than you did. I'm not saying he was right but the next time slow down with your date so he won't push it so far
2007-08-05 17:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by noteworthy5 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you and him were making out and he wanted to take it to the next natural step. Did you tell him where the line is drawn? You should have told him no, you don't want to go that far, and if he does not stop THEN be pissed at him. You did what most girls do and think that guys should read your mind about how far you want to go. It sounds like you got mad before you had a right to.
2007-08-05 17:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jim V 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he thought since things were going so well, that he'd try pressing himself onto you to see what would happen next. I don't think 'dry humping" is probably appropriate for a first date, but as a woman in my 30's, I've been on enough dates to know that guys are just horny all the time, and will try to go as far as you will let them
2007-08-05 17:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by me123 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think he was just being a typical male, and yall were making out and he wanted to see if you wanted to go further, i think if you really like this guy you should call and tell him your sorry for overeacting and that you just didn't wanna go that fast and yoru sorry if you gave him the wrong impression, if your making out and kissing and all that, of course the man is gonna get hard, he just did that to see how much further you wanted to go......so have a talk with him
2007-08-05 17:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
LOL. Well perv is kind of strong, but thats your personal reaction and you have the right to stop anything. But yes since you just met him that is kind of a perv move but he may be kind of offended if he really isnt one cuz there are some perverts who have done most. But if you dont want to see him again..dont!!
2007-08-05 17:02:26 · answer #11 · answered by w2006 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋