My fiance wants to name our baby when it's born if it is a girl Elizabeth and I objected since that is a name of one of my x-g/f's and the one I lost my virginity 2. Am I wrong for that???
2007-08-05 16:54:46 · 29 answers · asked by gbpackers_fan1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
We had in mind like stasia or something that we both liked but she brought Elizabeth up Fri night.
2007-08-05 17:13:04 · update #1
Have you told your wife that's the reason? Maybe she'd be more understanding if she knew. For my hubby and I, there are certain "taboo" names which include the names of any serious past partners of his or of me! Those names are automatically out. If your wife knows how you feel about that name, she should really understand, so keep communication open and keep looking until you find a name you both are happy with.
2007-08-05 16:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by January Love 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Yes you have the right to object - Elizabeth is the name of somebody you no longer wish to associate your life with - your fiance should understand and respect that. Naming your baby that name would always just remind you of your ex-girlfriend, and that isn't really a good thing.
Maybe you could suggest similar sounding names - perhaps: Bethany, Lilibeth, Elyza, Lizbet, Elspeth, Lizzie, Isabelle, Elissa, Lilith, or something like that.
I personally loved the first choice Stasia better - or maybe you could use Anastasia. :-)
2007-08-06 02:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a completely normal way to feel about it, and if you tell your fiancee that Elizabeth was the name of the ex you lost your virginity to, she probably won't want to name the baby Elizabeth either. Problem solved!
2007-08-06 01:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by ClassyInCoach 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. You have a say in the baby's name, too. Gently tell her that you would prefer a different name and give her time to think it over. However, might I suggest the fact that once the baby is born, that the name will only remind you of your beautiful little girl? Perhaps, if your wife is stuck on the name, you could try a different spelling, such as Lizabette or Elissabeth.
2007-08-06 00:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
you are not wrong at all. If this is your ababy too you have the right to decided 50-50 on the name and you eed to compromise. Baby naming is definitly a tricky one, we all have familiarization with names of people in our past. i turned down several for these types of reasons too. Do not stress about it. The right name will just happen naturally. She can always get a cat and name it Elizabeth! lol
2007-08-06 00:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by pickinuppixies 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No you are not wrong. You should choose a name that both of you agree on. My husband has rejected most of the names that I like for our baby girl due in November and I have rejected most of his....We are currently stuck but I am sure we will find something perfect that we both love by the time she is born. (Or at least I hope we do!!) I actually liked a name that was one of his ex girlfriends names and when he told me he didn't want it for that reason, I totally understood! Good luck with it.
2007-08-06 00:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by West Aussie Chick 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You're not wrong. Think of it this way: I won't let my current boyfriend call me Pussycat because my ex called me that.
You aren't your baby, but she is still a part of you. Would it help to call her by a nickname? There are so many nicknames for Elizabeth that I doubt you would think of your ex if your ex was Liz, and you called your child Betsy. (Note: those were randomly chosen, you pick your own)
2007-08-06 03:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by bisous148 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. Your fiance should be reasonable about that and you both can pick another name. I would certainly not want to name my daughters after the baby's father's former girlfriend, especially one of significance, no matter how pretty or attached I was to the name.
2007-08-06 00:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If it brings back bad memories or memories you don't want attached to your baby, then I would not choose that name. She should respect your feelings on the issue.
You might get better reception from your fiance if you come up with some good alternatives rather than just saying that you don't like the name.
2007-08-05 23:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by prettycoloredrocks 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I'm with you on this.... You have an association with the name. Like whenever I hear the name Ralph I think of the redhead in 3rd grade with the stinky backpack. Everyone has associations with names because of people in their past. I would explain the situation to your fiance and give her some alternatives.
Here's a few:
Elise
Ella
Emma
Eliza
Emaline
Libby
Anaelise
Emalie
Anabelle
Good luck and congrats :)
2007-08-06 00:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋