Will he be in trouble because I'm 17 and he's 30?

Question

He is a 33 yr old married man. Two daughters. And everytime were together we do nothing but laugh. I feel so good when he hugs me. He has never forced me to do anything that i wouldn't feel comfortable doing. He has never slept with me but has performed oral sex on me. Without asking for anything in return. I never performed oral on him. We were caught by the police the other night while he was satisfying me. I haven't spoken to him since.

We live in the state of georgia.

I never lied to him about my age. Yes, I did think about his kids, and wife, whose life i might be affecting in a bad way, but he gave me something no one else my age could. He hugs me. My mother doesn't do that and not even my father, whom at one point wanted to sleep with me and want me as his mistress. I come from a love less family and even though he could be lying to me about how he felt about me. I felt so good in his arms. Nothing else could compare. That's what I was missing in my life. HUGS. That's all and he gave that to me.

The most common answer to this question is also the most common misconception. "He is obviously using You", but how? I have nothing he could possible benifit from except getting laid. Which he hasn't tried. I work a minimum wage job. Live with my mother and two little brothers in a decent apartment. Neither my mother nor I have a car. I just graduated high school three months ago. We are just two people who enjoy each other's company. I've asked myself why me? Someone my age and I've asked him to. What did he answer? "Because when I'm with you. You make me smile. I feel good when I am with you." That maybe some cheesy line. But it's a line that I believe. I am not a stupid girl. I know right from wrong but there's a time when wrong feels just too right.

Answer 1

You are 17 and he's 33 AND married with kids! Please girl, realize that this man is a child molester!

Stay away from this man. He's a predator. And yes, he can go to jail. It's called statutory rape.

Answer 2

Its interesting how judgmental and hateful everyone is about this question.

People can be such a$$holes!! Why are all of you assuming that this girl is stupid just because she is 17? She is of legal age so all you who think this is statutory rape are just showing your ignorance.

Not that what you did was right, he was married and you knew it. You should have run away the minute you heard that. But the age is not that big an issue as far as I can see. If two people are compatible then its no-ones business but the two of you. If you like older men for whatever reason don't let this one cheater and all the freaks bitching at you sour you on having a relationship with whoever you want. Good luck. the haters out there ruined a good relationship i had with a younger girl (the true perverts in this group will naturally assume she was underage, but she was totally legal). Only bigots would say someone shouldn't have a relationship with someone of a different age, or race or any other difference.

Answer 3

Well first of all, If you are involved with a married man then that would make you a home wrecker. Did you stop to even think of his wife and children? I am sure by now that they know about you and are devastated. Adultery is illegal in most states. Second of all, in most states it is illegal for a man over the age of 18 to be with a minor under the age of 18. The legal term is "sexual assault on a minor" and it is a felony. It doesn't really matter if the two of you had sex or just kissed it is illegal either way. Did he actually know that you were only 17 or did you lie to him and tell him that you were older (legal)? If he really did know how old you are then he is sick!

Answer 4

He have you way more than hugs in this case. You should not look to the affection of an older man to satisfy your need for affection.

In this case in Georgia the age of consent is 16 so I don't think there will be a problem. But that doesn't make it right.

There is a problem in your home however if your Father wanted you for his mistress. It sounds like your home life has a greater problem than missing out on hugs. If there is abuse in your home, please call CPS.

I think I would rethink your relationship with this man, why does he feel the need to seek sexual contact with a underage teenager? His intentions do NOT sound honorable he is using you and your need for affection in my opinion.

How do you know you have been the only young teen in his life? A lot of times the minute the girl becomes 18 they go looking for the next needy young girl to exploit.

Instead of looking for what you need from someone else realize happiness comes from within. Get a focus with your life, a positive one. Figure out what you want to do in your life and then get an education. Spend your time with friends your own age, get involved in activities with them. Don't go looking for affection from some guy to fill the needs in your life, you can't get true happiness based on someone else.

Answer 5

This man is likely using you. Saying and doing all the right things. You’re selfish too you just admitted you didn’t give a dam about his kids or wife, it was your needs that you cared about. Now his children are likely to grow up in a broken home, but who cares when you were shown some ‘love’.

I’m not saying this man is blameless because he certainly holds a lot of the blame as well. He probably feed on you, you probably told him how you had never grown up with love, and he saw that as bait and took it. I am sorry about your loveless life but you really need to get some help, counseling. This man does not love you whatever he may say he’s using you, and he’s smart because he was clearly going slowly.

Answer 6

well honey i understand how you feel in a way and on the other hand i am so angry.......i am married now with two kids and i would be so crushed if i found out this was my husband ....but on the other hand i was in the same situation at your age i was 18 and he was 32 and yes he made me feel so amazing like i never have felt before no he wasn't married but i am telling you now you say he doesn't want sex oh you are so wrong you are just young and blinded by the way he makes you feel i am telling you how it turned out for me i got hurt cuz he found someone his age. so he is telling you what he knows you want to hear because he knows how to work with you ........ really we are all wasting our fingers because you won't listen because your young well thats my opinion but heres to anwser your question.....yes there is a reason for that law its called statitory rape and you are a child i know you may not c that but thats how the courts will. honey you could change his life forever if he is caught you need to stop it now it will never work

Answer 7

If you have already gotten in trouble, this situation will continue to bring nothing but more difficulty. Think to yourself why a 33 year old man with 2 kids would want to date someone so young? When you are older the age difference is not so bad but when you are young, it will brin gyou nothing but trouble. Don't continue seeing him is my advice. Meet guys in your own age range. This guy has kids, think about them and what kind of dad is getting in trouble or getitng caught by th epolice fooling around with an underage girl? Take care of yourself and extract yourself from the situation.

Answer 8

Hate to say this but I must. Although you would like to think you are an adult, and in some states they may consider you one......If you were then you would have not done this to a family. You SHOULD have told hime NO. You SHOULD have stayed away. Although he probably made the move on you, you allowed it and now there is another broken family.

NOW...Im not saying that YOU alone are to blame. This man is grown and married, he shouldnt be messing with underage girls no matter what reason he gives.

Please understand, both of you were wrong, but you could have very easily avoided this by staying away from him. Didnt your parents teach you to stay away from men with sexual intents? My daughter would have kicked him in his jewels and sent him sailing!

Grownups dont play grownup games with children....bottom line!

Answer 9

Oh girlie. I'm sorry to burst your bubble here, but what he did with you was wrong. I know it must seem stupid to you with you being almost 18, but the law is the law. What he did to you is considered statutory rape and is illegal. Your mom has every right to press charges against him. He knew what he was doing with you was wrong.

Your life is just beginning and you will have many more chances with men who will be able to give you more than this man ever could. Let this one go and move on with your life. Best of luck to you

Answer 10

What your parents did wasn't right and what this guy is doing isn't right.

I understand that you need to feel accepted and loved, but this man is using you. He is not a good person, because he cheats on his wife.

What he is doing is wrong legally.

You need to stop this relationship now. Be mature about it and end it. Talk to a minister/pastor/counselor about your emotions. Even talk to a good friend. But don't mess with a married man again.