sometimes i just don't get it.?

Question

sometimes i don't get if my best friend really cares about me talking about guys. sometimes i feel she's just listening. she rarely gives me advice and if she does, she says i'm obessed or something. i feel weird for asking this but, why do you think she doesn't like to talk about guys rarely. sometimes she does, but rarely unless we are talking about who she likes. i don't know. i've known her forever (litterly) and i just don't get why she's acting like this.

Answer 1

Okay, I hate writing this stuff but my friend is alot like yours. I havent figured her out yet. Sometimes, I think she's jealous, somtimes i think shes worried about me and wants me to get over him. Being obsessed with a guy is normal. Dont worry, if you are, just do more things that keep your mind occupied. Maybe gosh i hate saying this, shes selfish. She rarely talks about your crush but always wants to talk about hers. You just need to find another friend to confide in about this guy. Dont let her friendship go though. just find friends that will talk about you too. You need that aswell. Good Luck. Hope I helped.
Jilly <3
(u can always come to me :DD)

Answer 2

Maybe she's a bit conceited. She's only thinking about herself. She doesn't really care about what you have to say, she just wants the conversation to be about herself. Let her know that you want to talk about you once in a while. Direct the conversation towards you. Ask her questions, and when she doesn't answer, be persistent. Keep asking her till she gives an answer. Eventually, she will. Or, you could go to another one of your friends that is willing to listen AND give advice. Always make sure you have a friend you can talk to. Whether it be your best friend or not, you should always have someone to go to and talk to. Hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 3

You pretty much hit the nail on the head when you said she doesn't like to talk about guys "unless we are talking about who she likes". So she sounds like she's one sided. Unless you talk about something/someone she cares about, she's just not interested. She honestly sounds a bit self centered, I don't care if you've known her forever or not. If she were a "true" friend, she'd be willing to share whatever came up w/you. Maybe you do talk about guys too much tho. But then too, w/young girls, that's mainly the big subject in their lives to begin with. Is she interested in guys herself? Does she have a b/f? Maybe she's jealous because she doesn't get much attention from them & you do. There has to be some reason for it. I'd say it sounds like she likes to talk about her own situations rather than anyone elses. If so, I really wouldn't consider her my BEST friend. She sounds more like just a plain friend like the rest of your friends. She doesn't sound that special to me. Then again I could just be wrong!

Answer 4

She probalbly fears of loosing you quicker than she can get a guy.Perhaps she has given you all the advise she can, may be you need to listen closer. But I would recommend you talk to her direct and ask her why is it that when I talk about a guy or guys you turn off what is the real problem? Fav-ce it head on with her. if you say she is your best friend she will understand.

Answer 5

Maybe when it comes to guys, it is all about what she wants not you. Maybe she gets jealous when you talk about guys. Sometimes friends just want all your attention without talking about anyone from the outside but you two being together and enjoying the moments.
Try just letting you alls time together be about you and her. Find another friend to be the confidant you need to talk to about guys. Some people just do not like information about stuff happening outside of themselves. Also when she wants to talk about guys, try changing the subject or giving her the same treatment she gives you. Turnabout is fair play.

Answer 6

Maybe you talk about guys too much and she is annoyed by it...I know if my friends talk a lot about guys they like it gets boring after a while. She also may just like talking about her self more than she likes listening. Friendship is give and take so you both need to find your happy medium of something you both enjoy talking about... good luck

Answer 7

Well maybe your friend had a bad experience she doesn't want to talk about. If this continues and your really that eager to talk about this then don't get a new best friend but maybe you should find some one you can trust to talk to about this certain subject

Answer 8

she's just not as into guys as you are.

she doesn't give you advice because she doesn't know what to say because she doesn't have alot of experience with boys or maybe hasn't gone through the boy crazy stage.

your not obsessed, but she might not care about talking about that if she's not listening intently and happy to give you advice.

Answer 9

Does she date often herself?? If not, maybe she can't relate to what your saying so she doesn't have much to say or seriously doesn't know what to say. Have you told her how you feel about it??? Maybe she's just not as boy crazy as you, too. Could be many things. I wouldn't be mad at her for that, maybe she's just not as experienced with boys as you are and could feel uncomfortable discussing boys with you. Ask her and see what she says??!?!? I suggest talking to girls who you know can relate and understand what your going through. Good luck!

Answer 10

Don't hold it against her. It could be she doesn't know what to say. Or she may not like talking about guys due to a bad relationship with one and she doesn't want to be reminded.