Do you still FLIRT even when you're already committed? If, what makes you do that?

Answer 1

Well just because I truly am infatuated with my lover doesn't mean I can't still be a social person does it? I mean some people are so hawt they ought to be flirted with.. there is no point in denying yourself that fun. True however that a line needs to be drawn between causing emotional pain and having a bit of fun.

Further, since I enjoy flirting I have noticed that periodically people respond by flirting back. I submit to you that this is harmless... and I generally set up some rules for example, I usually disclose quite quickly my intentions and limitations and this is an important consideration.

Now, I also firmly believe that our current social model of monogamy is seriously under attack. I challenge it on the basis that it doesn't work.. around half of all marriages end in divorce and many of these by reason of infidelity. Too much emphasis is placed on monogamy and too high an expectation is forced upon couples to maintain it. I can say that it is seriously under attack by reference to what young people are doing. They are "hooking up" and do not have a g/f or b/f but instead have convenient arrangements and agreements of various forms involving intercourse or not. I see this social development occuring in my own teenage children's generation of friends. It is now widespread... and it is we who are out of touch if we do not think polygamy is the next generation's lifestyle. They dont want marriage and they don't want children! Fancy that. And I think I am a flirt?

Answer 2

I've never felt the need to flirt, or at least, not consciously. I
have found many people interesting enough that I fully enjoyed
their company without having to play games and be someone
I wasn't. I didn't need to prove anything to myself or some
other nor did feel inadequate about my image or personality by having to flirt. That was in being both single and after marriage.
I found most people have been attracted to my humor and
personality in general, and according to some, fell into the 'cute' category.
Now my husband was never a flirt either,and has been so
naive about his good looks and women. I have literally had
to stop situations from arising, due to him not even
realizing when a woman was coming onto him so strongly
that their bodies were about to touch. Both of us were
assured of our own sexuality and attractiveness to others but
we've never had to prove it. As we've both seen the need in
both sexes over the years. Some are so obviously hung up
on themselves that they must feel they are the almighty ans-
swer to the perfect man and woman. They tend to be both
insincere and insecure & have to constantly prove they are
attractive & desireable to the opposite sex. Perhaps even to the point of a committment. But the men aren't interested usually in committment to begin with. And sometimes, the
women aren't either. They enjoy the game playing and the
ego thumping. And the thrill of the ride.

Answer 3

One flirts for social and biological reasons beyond mating. It is not only a nice way of playing with and/or making friends, but also a self-confidence builder as well as a healthy way of testing the waters in many aspect!
Have you noticed that women flirt far more than men do... Meaning, that "hitting" on someone is different than flirting, although it can encompass flirting to some extent! They do it to test the waters and feel good about themselves more than actually getting a mate!

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with flirting - as long as it stops right there when you're committed. One of the reasons one of the partners in the relationship might do this is time. Perhaps, the couple has been together so long that although cheating is not an option a little bit of flirting will spice up activities in the bedroom when least expected. ;)

Answer 5

Well, some have suggested I do. But I reckon I'm just being friendly. To anything, from passing parrots, to dogs and babies and their Mums. Perhaps it comes from being born of a long line of traders! Perhaps I'm lucky I wasn't born a girl - and that I'm now too old to be considered a threat. Most men are basically such fraidy-cats they over-react to anything they can interpret as encouragement from a girl, don't they. From men they only interpret it as reassuring. Which can be a bad mistake. What fun!

Answer 6

Absolutely intrinsic human nature, as well as the nature of all other beings on this fuzzy planet.
Procreation is as fundamental as the mind can comprehend. Physical attraction is what makes us choose our "mates" from the beginning.
I just wish I could stop choosing so many mates. I don't feel real fundamental, and I'm running outta money.

Nad

Answer 7

Human nature!
This trait is inherent in the human psyche, just as flying is to birds. it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction. Anthropological research shows that flirting is to be found, in some form, in all cultures and societies around the world.
Flirting is a basic instinct, part of human nature. Research shows that flirting is a survival instinct, designed to help with the procreation process. Flirting to seduce is organic, whether we're aware of it or not.

What's with the thumbs down? Surley you're not saying that genetics are excluded from considerations of human behavior.

Answer 8

Um, you know i smile alot at people and im really friendly to men and women both. I just learned a while ago that i really can't do that with men because i was sending the wrong message. I didn't mean to i just like being nice to people. Especially when they look sad.

Answer 9

well, i don't. it's hard to flirt with just about anyone when i'm too preoccupied with my guy. and i'm serious when i'm committed. whether i'm committed to a man or work, i don't fool around. but i can bat my eye on some poor guy for just once, right? just joking. dead serious with committments. that's the only way i know how to. =)

Answer 10

Flirt.. you are kidding right?

Of course... why not? Flirt means NOTHING...
leads no where

and simply reminds you that you are "Alive"

Raymond (my partner) is a musician.. women FLIRT with him all the time.. it improzes his sefl esteem .. so, do I care? we been living together for almost 10 years.. NO I DO NOT CARE...

WIndow Shop... Flirt.. have fun.. just bring it back home to me..

That is all FIDELITY.. does not include NOT FLIRTING OR NOT LOOKING