My daughter is pregnant and we found out that her child will be mentally challenged.?

Question

The doctor has given the family the option to abort the pregnancy what should we do???

Answer 1

That's the kind of decision you should really make as a family. Your daughter should consider if she is up to raising a child with those kind of needs. If not, she should consider having the abortion. Because while some may think that having an abortion is killing the baby, having the baby suffer in an enviroment that is not adapted for its special needs is worse. So really think about it and I'm sure you and your family will come to the right decision.

Answer 2

I hope she does what makes her feel she made a good decision. I myself personally think life is hard enough without having a mental disability or a child with one. For those who do not believe in pro choice to tell you what to do is limiting your options, sometimes nature does make mistakes. If you are against abortion maybe giving the baby up for adoption would be an option. If she is in a place in her life where she can properly care for such a child and make a life long commitment and wants to she should have it. I will say that it is a life long commitment I have a cousin who is mentally handicapped and she is now well into her 50's. Her mom gave up a lot of things to raise her.





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Answer 3

Does the doctor have proof this child will be mentally challenged. NO! I mean how can someone even think of aborting a baby just because it may be mentally challenged! It's still HER baby! And at least try adoption! Don't murder a baby because you don't think you can handle something like that! It's still a precious baby! I recently had a miscarriage! I would do ANYTHING to have my baby, Mentally challenged or not! I'll never have my baby! And it's not fair that people who have the chance to have a baby choose to murder it! I myself didn't have a choice what so ever!

Answer 4

The ultimate decision is up to you, but my friend's mom was told the exact same thing. She was going to have her 3rd son and the doctors told her that he would be mentally challenged, but she had him anyway! Now he's 10yrs old and perfectly normal! So if you're daughter's child ends up being mentally challenged and you feel like you can handle the hard work and dedication, then she should keep it. However, if she's completely unprepared for what it takes, then she shouldnt. She should just know that sometimes doctors arent 100% right. And afterall, it is a child who needs love too. But if i were in your position, i would have no idea what to do either!!! good luck with the decision you end up making!!! :)

Answer 5

There are all degrees of mental retardation. I assume the test was for Down's Syndrome. There are so many options to give these people a full, rich life.
I refused the test when I was pregnant because I knew I wouldn't abort the baby, anyway.
You are not part of the WE that needs to make the decision. Back off and be supportive of whatever the parents choose.

Answer 6

I can only imagine the pain and sadness she must feel. My advice is that while the child will be a financial burden and will need extra care and attention there is a chance that he/she my grow up to be a very sweet and loved addition to the family. And while he or she may not go on to Yale there are many examples of mental challenged persons who are incredible artists and the like.

beuatiful autistic boy birth to 5-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G7kHSOgauhg&mode=related&search=

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZSfAJEpElc

They can be raised successfully. There are therapists and support groups that we will prove an invaluable assest to both mother and child.

eg:
http://www.php.com/

It can be done abortion isn't your only option.

If you are christians/believe in God pray and ask for guidance
and with grandparents who seems so concerned and genuinely interested i'm sure she have more than enough help.

Answer 7

You have to decide whether you are pro-life or pro-choice. What does your daughter want to do? How capable is your daughter of handling a mentally challenged child? Are you just going to end up sticking the child into an institution? How far along in the pregnancy is she?

Answer 8

Personally, I would not abort because I do not believe in abortion. But she should base that decision on her own beliefs. Raising a mentally challenged child can truly be a difficult thing. On the other hand, my cousin is mentally handicapped, and he gives us all so much joy, I can not imagine the world without him. Keep in mind, God never gives us more than we can handle.

Good luck and hope this helps.

Answer 9

Just because this child is different does not mean it should be aborted. Have the child...if unable to care for it, give the child up for adoption. Tons of families would love to adopt and care for this child. The child did not choose this for themselves, so why not give an innocent child life? What if everyone aborted kids that had red hair because that is considered different??? That child can be as loving as any other child.

Answer 10

This is up to your daughter. This may be what everyone says, but it's true. It's up to her daughter and perhaps her husband, if she has one. I don't want to sound like a perfectionist or spoiled or just cold-hearted but I would.. I can't even say it. Abort. I just couldn't handle having a mentally challenged child. I'd only do it if I was three months or younger pregnant. Oh, God. I don't know, I couldn't handle my child to not be able to do the things that the others would.. I'm sorry, it's still up to your daughter.