I have been friends with the 2 of them for a very long time. Theyhave now been separated for a long time. Recently I have been talking to her alot and we are finding we really enjoy each other and have alot in common. Not sure what is appropriate. Life is really short not to be happy.
2007-08-05 14:49:08 · 15 answers · asked by junior 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you give something away, it is no longer yours, so you have no say in what the person wants to do with your ex possession. This woman is a free agent and is free to date who she likes. She is the ex, not the wife, so as far as I am concerned she is just like anyone else and is free to date. If your friend gets cranky about you dating his ex, then why isnt he with her? If they are living separately then both of them have the freedom to date whoever they like. They are no longer together, so you are not breaking any law. Yes, life is too short not to be happy and if this woman makes you happy, then why not take a chance. The ex husband has got no right to be cranky about it....and if you lose his friendship over it, then hes not very mature.
2007-08-05 15:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you said LIfe is really short not to be happy I think you have already made up your mind. Even though you like her alot, do you mind it getting between you and her ex-husband? Friends are there for you when you break up with your gf/bf and for everything else in life, is it worth losing him as a friend? Maybe he wouldn't even mind, I don't know but if he does you have surely lost a friendship. Is it worth it?
2007-08-05 21:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by lil_rebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are looking for love in the wrong place. Going around a friend's ex wife is totally wrong. Your friend and his wife have broken up for a reason. Why are you going after someone's else left overs? Look for someone that had nothing to do with anyone you know.
2007-08-05 21:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice to you is ..if she is free,..and the two of you are compatible..then go for it man. If your friend was a true friend He would want you happy and should give you his blessing..on the other hand..you know your friend i don't...some guys get a little tense about such things..but in reality...if she is divorced... then..she is no longer legally tied to him...however be careful of the excess baggage that can go along with such a relationship..i guess all in all you have to ask yourself how much the friendship will effect your proposed relationship with the ex-wife...as long as you two see eye to eye...it could be something really good.. i hope this helps...good luck.
2007-08-05 21:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and it is a rough road - a lot of guilt... It's much easier if the other one is starting a serious relationship with someone else too. Remember that the lovey dovey hormones wear off and there you are... If you can live with losing your friend - ??? Good Luck - I'm glad I'm not in your shoes right now... PS i married him.. It was a good decision for me (most days...)
2007-08-05 22:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that honesty is the best policy. I would talk to the friend and ask how he feels if I go out with his ex. It's better, than if he finds out later by accident.
2007-08-05 21:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the situation. There are many other women who can make you happy and your going to loose a good friend
2007-08-05 21:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by jungljn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you waiting for? If they are divorced and you two get along very well, then do it. Your friend probably already knows you like his ex, so that is no surprise, and if it is a problem for him, don't make it your problem.
2007-08-05 21:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cmon homie that's a very thin line your about to cross, if your going to do something like that then call him and find out where he is with it, cause she could be using you to make him jealous, that just ain't cool
2007-08-05 21:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kenneth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would taklk to your friend and let him know that you have been talking to his ex and that you like talking to her and that nothing has happened but you wanted to let him know and that you are still his friend as well and don't want things between you to be awkward and whatever.
2007-08-05 21:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by cowgirlclub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋