one night i came home early very early and fond my wife in bed with two black men, and picture of her nake with both of them.we have been with each other for twenty years now.
2007-08-05 14:31:00 · 12 answers · asked by brain b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
honestly... midlife crisis or attempt at renewing the "spark" that she might be lacking.... You need to contemplate what you might have done to make her eyes turn away.... I suggest sittng down with your wife of 20 yrs and having a real heart to heart... find out what is missing or what went wrong....
Ultimeitely you might have to take your lesson and move on .... sorry that's a tough one
2007-08-05 14:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by SexyAliceD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you should do with your cheating wife. You leave her and find you some one else. Ask your wife what are the 2 black men giving her that you're not and work it out. But if you love her so much you think you can't leave her over this or work it out by your self go to marriage counciling.
2007-08-05 14:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by ........... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if you want your relationship back. If you do reflect back on the things that made you fall in love with your spouse in the first place. If either of you have changed and those things are no longer there, then look for qualities in your spouse that you are still attracted to.
Be honest with your spouse. Let her know what you are feeling and thinking. It may be painful for your spouse to know that the flame is dying but it is better they know and can lend support.
Communicate, communicate, communicate. Do not accuse. Do not threaten. Do not nit pick. Those are wedges that will drive the strongest relationship apart.
Don't try to change your spouse, but encourage him or her modify their behavior. However, you must be willing to be patient and to modify your own as well.
When alone, think about your spouse. Remember the way it was and realize that (in many cases) it still is but time has dulled the emotion.
Finally, ask yourself this question and answer it truthfully, "Do I love my spouse?" If the answer is yes, then do whatever it takes to make it work.
2007-08-05 14:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, can you trust her any longer? I couldn't. Besides, in the Bible doesn't it say something about the only permissible grounds for a divorce are adultery? I am not sure if it says that but a friend of mine says it does. At any rate, when I found out my then husband was committing adultery, I instantly had him served with divorce papers; I wasted no time. I could never trust someone like that. Could you?
2007-08-05 14:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to get betrayed after that many years, almost shocking, but it happens every day and seems to be more common than we would like to think. i can only tell u what i would do, i would divorce her because u will never be able to get the image of what u saw out of your head, and u will never again feel the same way, or be able to trust her, no matter if she is now showing remorse. once the ego gets involved, and it always does, its over with, because your not going to feel the same way about yourself anymore, when your with her, all the years of trust and feeling comfortable knowing she was in your corner and would never betray is now destroyed, and no matter how hard u try u can't bring it back.
2007-08-05 15:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy! that's a real kick in your gut, sorry about that. This will be your own decision, we can't even tell you how it feels seeing your own wife banging two men. It doesn't matter if you still love her,but she didn't respect you enough to be faithful to you. Just think about yourself now, let her go because she will keep on doing it if you still forgive her.
Just like my husband, got involved with a married woman, he learn to love her,gave her affection and passion that he never gave me. But because of his feelings for her,he never bothered asking her if it's okay to bang her while she's still married like him. And when I discovered his love affair, I talked to her husband, and her husband now ex told me that one of the reason why he wants to divorce her was he caught her with 2 black American guy in his own bed. His second reason was his wife loves to talk about god and religion so I guess he got fed up with her. Which this wh##e that my husband bang never told the truth to my husband, but I guess if you love someone,it will not matter who you are before......that's why I don't love him nor don't want to reconnect with him anymore...
2007-08-05 15:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on Jerry Springer. Might as well make a few bucks.
2007-08-05 14:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs ze spanking O_o
2007-08-05 14:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to hit the road, and don't let the door smack her on the way out.
Then again she might like that.
2007-08-05 14:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by serephinadragon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Leave now. Do not take her back under any circumstances. In case you did not get that -- leave.
2007-08-05 14:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by conductorbrat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋