Heart Broken and lost. Why me?

Question

Until last night I had the best boyfriend in the world and then it all came crashing down. He told me that he didn't think he was going to marry me so there was no point in continuing. I am crushed and I feel like the last 2.5 years meant nothing. He was my best friend and now I have no one. I can't get happy. The sad thing is that I feel like he just wants to forget that I meant anything to him. I think its easier for him to just forget me. I have no appetite and I can't even smile and I just wish I knew if he is even a little sad. He sure doesn't act like it. What do I do to stop hurting? Why is it so easy for him? I just need advice I guess.

Answer 1

Time is on your side Darlin... This is an unexpected shock, it is understandable that you don't want to eat or even function. I've been there too, and know that pain. I can tell you that with TIME, you will begin to heal. It will take a long time, (You didn't build the relationship with him over night) to fix your broken heart, but it will get better. You won't even realize it at first. Then one day you will wake up and realize that you have a lot to offer someone who can appreciate you.
Hang in there... If you need someone to chat with, to get through the hard lonely time, hit me up. Good Luck.

Answer 2

The time after a breakup is best spent focusing on yourself, because you really need it. What you have on your hands is a very worn and heavy heart, and the best way to fix it is to have your boyfriend back. See the problem? Instead, you must find other ways to mend it, using what you do have. It will take a lot more time, effort and devotion, but it's far from impossible.

Try to take this whole big mess and break it down into pieces, clearing the rubble into neat piles. Start simple: if you can't keep food down, eat salads with small sips of water. Grapes are also good. With that off the list, tackle a more difficult one: if you feel alone, call someone and get out of the house. There are plenty of people around you who know the pain of a breakup. See how I'm doing this? Much like a messy room, it's best approached in steps.

As you slowly clear the mess and begin to rebuild, recognize yourself for your strength and observe each mark of progress. Write in a journal so you can revisit your thoughts, and talk to people. There's a lot of advice out there, as you're finding out here. Use every resource that's available to you.

Answer 3

You just heard about this, so you are still shocked by what seems to be a sudden change of events. However............. He has been thinking this over for some time. Since he is not planning on marrying you, leads me to believe that he may have run across someone that he feels may be more compatible with. It's just a good thing he told you before there was anymore wasted time, or cheating. Hopefully he was honest to tell you before he attempted to move on.

The hurt will take time. He may take to get you back at some point, but right now, it's about him and how he feels. Let him have it, then when he wants you back, see how you "feel" then. This is a learning experience for you.

I hard one unfortunately.

Answer 4

Honey it just happened yesterday of cores you are going to be heart, and you don’t want to do anything else than stay in your bed for the rest of your life, unfortunately the world wont stop, and wont wait for you, its ok to be sad today, but tomorrow you will continue with your life(even though you don’t want to) because life is only one and you can’t waist time crying for the what didn’t happened. I understand that this is not easy, that at night all the memories will come(and is the worst part) and that your heart is broken but life must go on, and you’ll see that in a few months everything will be better, “tomorrow will be a new day and a new beginning “

Answer 5

You need to socialize with other people. I know it's going to be hard to forget him but he was a jerk to do that. Surely there must be neighbors around you so talk to them or talk to relatives....Don't start talking negative about the relationship to others cause most of the time, that happens a lot when someone's hurting. Don't worry on how he reacts to the whole thing cause the more you think about him, the more you'll be sad. Think freely and feel free. Hang out with other people and make more friends. Live life to the fullest. Take care.

Answer 6

1) if you are old enough, get drunk for one evening. Yes, just stay at home, have a few glasses of wine and cry yourself to sleep.

2) after you can stop crying, thank him silently for being honest to you - it would have been a tragedy if you had spent your life with someone who didn't love you!

3) Let go of him in your heart and give yourself time to heal. You just got your heart run over by a monster truck.

4) you'll be normal in time. So give yourself time.

Answer 7

i think hes found someone else and he wont' tell you the truth its worse then saying what was on his mind. so you know now that thetruth is and you need to get out and meet new guys and be happy that is why going with guy too long isn't good if youa re dating and making plans that is one thign but hanging out for yearsa nd nothing its not usually for long haul

Answer 8

You need to go out with yoru friends as much as you can do things. Go to places, don't listen to sad music, the important thing is to be with your friends as much as you can, that way you wont think about him as much, you will not be a lone, youll have support. good Luck

Answer 9

Its called life move on!!!! The world is harsh so make sure you take care of yourself first!!!!!!!!!!