We are 40 and 33 years old, he is happy about me being pregnant but he doesn't think he is ready to get married. Should I still have his baby?
2007-08-05 13:41:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. He's a real jerk if that's how he treats you.
2007-08-05 13:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People should not get married because of pregnancy. Marriage is base upon a much more complicated criteria. If you want the baby have the baby, but be sure you are prepared to raise the child alone if necesarry. Carefully think about all of the options in front of you and the baby. Contact your OBGYN and ask if he/she could recommend a family planning counselor. They have a wide variety of resources that can help you make the best decision for you. There is alot to consider so having a little assistance to organize your thoughts will put much more at ease.
If you decide against becoming a mom please consider adoption. There are so many people out there that are ready to be dedicated caring parents and can't.
2007-08-05 21:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by OsMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, bringing a life into the world is just as or greater responsibility then marriage. You can always get a divorce, but a child, well, that is a life time commitment. You can't return a baby to the store and get a refund. If a guy is fine with regards to knocking you up, but refusing to marry you, then a big red flag should ride high on your beware list, since he might be the guy to also walk away from you and the child, in which case, as a unmarried mom, your legal rights not to mention your life in general, will be seriously compromised.
2007-08-05 21:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Morally abortion is not the answer. You really should have thought more about this while your were sleeping together without a life plan together. Since he sounds like he never wanted to marry, I would have cut my losses and got rid of him. But since you are and he doesn't want to marry, you are now having to face a life with a child that he doesn't respect you enough to be a man and marry you. Is that really the type of man you want? You are having his baby whether you want to raise it alone or adopt it out. Don't continue to sleep with this man if he isn't prepared to marry you and take his responsibilities as a man for you and this baby. It isn't fair to your child.
2007-08-05 20:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All babies are blessings, and God gave you this child for a reason. You may not understand why now, but you will later. Of course you should have this baby. This baby is a great blessing that others never get to experience.Feel blessed and privileged,with or without him. You wont regret it. And for some reason you do regret it, there is adoption that have people praying for a baby everyday. Never terminate the baby. They arte here for a special purpose, all of them. I hope you make the right decision. Youre in my prayers.
2007-08-05 20:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it is not only his baby, it is yours, also. If you want the child, then by all means have the baby. Even if you do not get married or stay together he would still have to contribute to the support of the child. If I were in your shoes and wanted a baby, then I would definitely have it. If YOU do not want the baby then don't have it.
2007-08-05 20:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a personal decision that only you can make. However, you should have thought about this before becoming pregnant. Did you not know he wasn't into marriage before you got pregnant? Either way, I hope it works out for you and your baby.
2007-08-05 21:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Empress1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very personal decision. If you can live with this man without ever expecting to get a marriage proposal then stay with him....but to end a pregnancy for a man that doesn't wish to get married will make you just as selfish as he is.
2007-08-05 20:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember when you were a kid? Did you have a dad? If you didn't, how did it feel? Think about it. If this guy's afraid to commit to you, I doubt he has it in him to commit to a child the way a dad needs to commit to a child.
2007-08-05 20:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that it certainly is fine to keep the baby if you want to have one, but don't count on this guy to step up.
2007-08-05 20:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Brown 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Isn't it a little late to be asking?
2007-08-05 20:44:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋