My wife never told me her feelings or expressed her needs. I thought she was happy until she ran off with a coworker after 14 years together. My friends told me that surely she talked to you about not being happy. And no she never did its like she internally exploded and is rebelling against me. what gives?
2007-08-05 13:17:24 · 9 answers · asked by David r 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your expression "rebelling against me" is curious. It's really difficult to understand why your wife was not communicating with you. Either she did not feel that she could, or she didn't think it would have a good result, or perhaps she had feelings for someone else and she had decided she didn't care for you enough to avoid acting on it. I'm sorry she didn't try....unless there was some reason to be afraid of you...which I certainty don't think is the case...I think she should have communicated.
If you think she had a lot of resentment about something ...that she "internally exploded"....then you must have some idea that something happened that you think she had resentments about. So I'm not excusing her but I would recommend that you consult with a psychologist who can help you to examine what might have been your role.
I certainly respect your willingness to explore this. I think doing so will help to insure your future happiness in a new relationship....there are a lot of wonderful women out there who need a loving partner...so once you have recovered from this terrible betrayal and loss....know that you can have the power to make another human beings dream come true...which is truely the best way to find your own happiness.
God bless.
2007-08-05 13:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happens all the time. Some people have difficulty expressing their feelings for a multitude of different reasons; lack of trust, not sure how you'd react, previous traumas ... some people are just introverted and don't express much. Think about signs she's given of not being happy ... perhaps cues you didn't pick up on ... changes in behavior ... changes in body language ... what events occurred that might have brought this about ... have the two of you spent a growing amount of time apart? Have you felt isolated? Ignored? Can you think of a time she might have?
Start by evaluating all of your interactions with her, and try to figure out when the change might have come about, why it might have come about, and what you might do to correct it ...
But understand, if she's already left you for someone else ... you might not be able to correct things with her ... you may only be able to learn from this experience and apply it to the future ... sorry ... kind of a tough truth. But don't not try to work things out, just don't expect things to go back to normal either ...
2007-08-05 13:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by JR 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone eles then.
Sometimes you got to look at yourself as a person and see if you were open hearted, cause people try to say something but a lot of there partners dont listen and as soon as someone pay them any attention they will be with them at the end. Just make sure you did all you could do for no regrets
2007-08-05 13:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Delightful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 02:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is depressed and need talking but u should start first and ask. Have u tried askin' her what she feels? I'm a girl and I always like to be asked about my feelings or sth because I think if i start talkin' myself maybe others wouldn't be interested in and I'm not that risky to hurt myself for a day!!
So try just to go trough her heart and see what's wrong there?
Best Wishes for You and Your Wife.
2007-08-05 13:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Linkin Tooka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably felt like that you couldn't understand what she was going through and since she found someone that she wants she doesn't need to talk to you anymore.
2007-08-05 13:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people make up their minds to do thing, perhaps your wife made up her mind to run off and never told you b/c she knew as her husband you would try and stop her/help her.
2007-08-05 13:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she did and you were not listening. Do you get angry and she was afraid to talk to you?
2007-08-05 13:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess she''s either testing or you're gonna have to start dating again
2007-08-05 13:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋