Is my husband okay?

Question

I am afriad that my husband is really nervous about having a newborn in the house, is he okay? What is bugging him?
He seems less cheery and excited the way he was when I was pregnat.

Answer 1

Everyone is nervous bringing home the new firstborn. You can't say that you haven't experienced the same. The two of you need to talk about your fears and excitement and you will work it out together. Once the baby is there, you both will be punting and trying hard to figure it out. Give him a break and try to help him.

Answer 2

He is okay. He probably is nervous and scared. The anticipation of having a baby is exciting and joyful. Now that the baby is here he isn't sure what to do or how to act. Not to mention having a new baby means a lot less sleep and energy. Don't worry he'll come back around to his normal self. It may take a few months. Once the baby starts responding to him in a way that he can understand and appreciate. Congratulations!!! Your husband will be fine. Enjoy your new baby. You could try letting him give the baby a bath. Help him build up his confidence taking care of his child.

Answer 3

A lot of men get anxious before the baby comes for a number of reasons. There is a lot of pressure on him now. For example.... will he earn enough to support the family, feed the family, make sure the bills are paid. He might even be worried about not making mistakes with his child and he might even be unsure of what kind of father he is going to be. You should try to talk things over with him to put him at ease and find out what is going on in his mind. Also there is a jealousy issue at hand too. While most men won't admit to it, the baby is going to take up much of your time and he will be feeling left out for awhile. Thats human and I expect he might have a fear of that happening some. The more involved he can be the better off all three of you will be. My best advice I can offer is to really sit down before the baby is born and begin by telling your husband that you have concerns and then maybe he will open up to you about his. You two are partners and you should be able to discuss these issues and hopefully before the baby comes. Also my best guess is, is that once he sees his son or daughter come into this world all that worry will melt away and he will just fall in love with you all the more and step up and really shed his fears and concerns.

Answer 4

My guess would be that the weight of the world is on his shoulders right now. It is a huge responsibility to take care of a child and it sounds like he is taking that responsibility seriously. I'd say lucky you! Unfortunately, the unknown is scary - but know that the end result is the blessing. Anyway, I think most men think of the complications with you, the financial end, the "am I even worthy of this child" thoughts. It is typical, I think. Stay in tune with his emotions and try to get him to talk as much is possible. Most men are scared and the idea of taking care and being responsible for another human being is reasonable. Let him know you get this and together you will be an awesome set of parents... I know you will. Best of luck... this, too, shall pass!

Answer 5

That's a situation where a lot of people are nervous. It is a big change in a persons life. I understand the less cheery part but I don't unerstand the next part excited the way he was when you were pregnant. Give it time,and good luck, be patient.

Answer 6

he's fine. men don't know how to handle the emotions that come with having a baby. women have to swing them for nine months, so by the time the baby comes, it's old news. men think babies will break, they don't know how to hold them, they're afraid they will drop them.... and the list goes on and on.

also, there is the fact that your family dynamics have now changed. where I'm sure you spent a lot of time doting on your husband during your pregnancy, being the happy mother-to-be, showering him with love and looking forward to the birth of your love child, now he kind of takes the back burner. you have less time for him now that you have all of the things to do to care for the baby and the fact that you will be tired for months to come. also, if the baby is under a couple of months old, the sex isn't the same. you're too tired, you're still experiencing the post-partem bleed, and sometimes just seeing the baby come out really grosses the husbands out. (I've met men who said they never wanted to touch their wives again. yeah, this wears off, but it's a shock for men who haven't been here before.) it's all normal. have a talk with your husband, tell him you are concerned about his emotional wellbeing, and see if there is anything he wants to talk about. this will all even out, just give him time.

Answer 7

your husband is fine we just had a baby too, let me start by saying congrats. he's just tired i know i am, the baby doesnt have a schedule like we do yet, up all hours of the night. he's not getting a good night sleep,neither are you most likely. plus having a baby is alot to cope with,he no longer can live for his self, and has to live for what the child needs, but it's not a bad thing though. I find that going golfing helps to release the stress and tenison, so my suggestion would be to get him to do what he likes for a whole day and a good night sleep even if he has to sleep in the other room,,,, again congrats hope this helps... he'll come around but don't press the issue unless it goes to far. you'll know when to if it comes to that

Answer 8

First of all, to all you guys out there, I hope I don't offend you. Men are little boys, just bigger, and most of the time alot more fun. Sometimes they can get a little jealous of a new baby, just like an older sibling will. Are you giving "Dad" equal time? Are you keeping yourself up? Do you use the baby as an excuse, (i.e. tired because of baby, the baby might start crying, I don't have the time?) Daddies need love too, after all, without him little one would not be. Baby him, too. It's okay! Go out on a date, or something fun. Good luck.

Answer 9

It takes some getting use to for men as well. They are no longer the center of attention and you now need to focus on your baby. Men can get jealous of that but not want to tell you for fear of sounding selfish. Give him a few weeks, and some extra encouragement and affection, and I am sure he will come around. By the way, I am a mom of 3 and my hubby always acted similar in the first weeks after bringing home our kids, but he is such a wonderful, hands on father now. Good luck to you and congratulations on your new family member.

Answer 10

This is HUGE for your husband and he is probably scared Sh*tless. I would be more worried if my man didn't seem concerned and nervous. He'll get over it. Trust me, just give him the time and understand. His body hasn't been overflowing with the same hormones you've been getting and he's just been given the biggest responsibility in the world, raising a child. Good luck and congratulations!