I thought it was just a stage but its been four years, My heart aches for this guy. We se eachother almost everday. I just feel so sick inside. I have been married for a long time I would hate to throw alll this away and find that it was never meant to be in the first place ........any advice ?
2007-08-05 12:41:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how was your marriage before you meet this guy?
I understand that yu are in love with this guy after all it has been four years and you still feel the same way about him than it must be love
but before you made a move to divorce your husband you should at least seek counseling and talk to this guy, you may realize that you are just in love of hte idea of him and not him after all ( I mean you may just want a change)
Good luck
2007-08-05 12:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The problem with this situation is that some just don't think of consequences because there will be. You feel sick inside because there is something inside you telling you it's wrong.
Just because guy's do certain things doesn't necessarily mean hes interested in more then being coworkers. If he started anything with you it would definitely show what type man he is. Then you walk a mile in your husbands shoes how would you feel? Then there is the policy that just about all company's have with employee relations you could get fired.
You have alot more to lose then you would ever gain. Then finally friends and family how would they feel? You could lose everything........is it really worth it?
2007-08-05 13:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by miester44 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So lets examine this,you have been married a while and have become bored with your husband.Now you met a guy and have got to know him (at work I can assume)The new guy is fun,exciting and really gets you excited.You have to ask yourself a few questions what does he have that my current husband does not? Is my marriage worth throwing away for this new man?.What happens in a few more years when I once again get bored and notice someone else new and exciting?Maybe you should focus your attention on your current husband and all of your efforts at making your marriage work.I personally would have a problem with a woman that would leave a marriage to be with me.I guess I would always figure if she did it to him , why not me too?
2007-08-05 13:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tom S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your priorities straight. You are a married woman. Sure, all the attractive people in the world still exist. But, you are married and have boundaries that you don't need to cross. Try focusing on your husband. I am sure he would love to receive all the attention and affection that you are trying to give to another guy. It is alright to dream and have fantasies but it is not alright to act on them. As you said, you would hate to throw away your marriage over something that may not be what you think is. Good Luck.
2007-08-05 13:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by flirty30 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should only get a divorce if the MARRIAGE is doomed. If there is something terrible that can't be repaired.
That said, get away from this other guy. Forget him. Cut off contact and work on the relationship you promised your husband.
If your marriage can't be fixed after giving it a fair try then divorce and move on.
You owe it to your husband to work on your relationship before moving on.
2007-08-05 13:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by plastic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should seek the advise of a therapist. You must decide if you want to stay married to your husband, not if the other guy is worth a divorce. Is you husband worth staying with?
2007-08-05 12:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not risks loosing your husband. Do you still love your husband? Do you have children with your husband? Does your husband treat you right? If yes, do not risk it..
Sometimes you have to think about your situation and make sure that you make the right decision. I could understand if your husband does not make you happy and he ignores you like mine does. In a situation like that you should separate for a little while. I am separated from my husband and I love it, I have freedom and he comes whenever he wants to visit his children. Good Luck with you decision...
2007-08-05 13:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about rather or not you're in love with your husband. If you are, try to work out the marriage. Either way, you need to decide where you want to be.
2007-08-05 13:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
that must b really hard ....
I was in similar position...
married and in love w/ a guy ....Of course his feelings weren't the same and before we stoped seeing each other my husband (ex now ) found out about it....
I wish that I only fantasized about the guy back then...Now I regret my past....and there is no turning back......
so I am lonely and miserable...
2007-08-05 12:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
life is to short, if there are kids involved, then no, but if u truely feel there is nothing worth left saving, then yes. u can never take back what u have done, rememeber that, the question is, is it worth it to u ?
2007-08-05 13:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋