well i have a problem.mi mom treats me like im a child..im 16 and she doesnt wnt me to date or have a boyfrien

Question

at this time i have a boi friend but i dnt wnt to tell her becuz i dnt wnt her tothink i went behind her back...which i did...but i wnt her to trust me and i think this may make her not trust me....i need opinion from parents and peers ....i wnt to know what i can say or do to let her give me a chance....signed by::::::i wnt to date!!!!

Answer 1

Tell her you have a boyfriend and he is really great and that you don't want to go behind their backs and that you would like to bring him home to meet him so they can see for their selves how nice he is maybe she could deal with it if she knows who your hanging out with.

Answer 2

Well you kind of put yourself in a bad position having a boyfriend behind her back. That could be a real issue now, but it's done.
Maybe you could to come to some sort of compromise with your Mom. You might suggest you would only go out on group dates for the time being. If she gets a chance to know this guy in a group she may come around and actually see he is a nice guy.
If she agrees to that, do not disappoint her. If you want her trust then you must abide by the rules and as you've already gone behind her back once don't blow it.
I wasn't allowed to date until I was seventeen (grade 12) so count yourself lucky. I survived.

Answer 3

Just tell her that you want to stay a virgin till you get married and she let you have more space. When i was in school the girls that stayed home were more respected and not treated like the girls who were out with guys till 4am
plus a guy who be happy to get a girl like you and soon have a mom that knows whats right for her girl.
my mom always had me on a leash and it was because of her mistakes she made when she was young so thats prob your moms problem.

Answer 4

You have to exercise responsibility to be taken seriously. You aren't a child anymore and your mother will trust you only when you prove you can be trusted. Don't go behind her back no matter how much you think you should, it will only hinder your relationship with her. Be honest and upfront, she will appreciate that more than ever, good luck!

Answer 5

I know this is not the answer you want to hear, but you still are technically a child. If you really want to date sit down and talk to your mom and have a conversation and set some terms that both of you can agree on.

I'm sure she is worried about you and your safety. Bring your date to meet her so she isn't as worried about you.

Good luck!

Answer 6

ugh same with me, my mom even gets protective when i talk or invite over a friend that happens to be a boy! hmmmmm u should maybe try and get a boyfriend that would make ur parent proud (ya know someone nice, caring, loyal, blahblah etc.) and ask ur mom to giv u a chance to prove u can balance ur life while having a boyfriend

Answer 7

So, restated, here's your question: I know I'm not trustworthy, because I lied, but I want my Mom to trust me. If you want trust, you must earn it.

You have so many years to have relationships with the opposite sex. I know it seems so imperative now, but it's really not. If you focus on your studies, you can build a future for yourself, and then you'll really have something to bring to the table when chosing a mate.

Answer 8

Your mom is always going to be over protective, and you'll probably be going behind her back until she realizes there's nothing she can do. No matter how great of a boy you're dating, no one will ever be good enough for you in her eyes.

Answer 9

Well first off, keeping stuff from ur mom aint good. Plus shill find out evenentually and when she does and finds out u dint tell her shill think ur keeping more stuff from her.

and i honesly think having a bf is for sluts. unless u wanna marry this guy theres no point.

and im 13 and im tellling u this stuff honestly find ur brian women! ur mom is just trina look out for u buddy!

Answer 10

yeah, my parents dont want me to date until im 15 and i cant wait cuz its in a few months...lol...but you should talk to her and say what comes from ur heart..nobody can tell you what to say to her cuz we dont know what kind of person she is and u are the only one that can tell her how u really feel..if you asking us what to say to her then u basically lieing to her and how is a mother supposed to trust u if u're lieng...just sit and talk to her im sure she'll make a wise decision..if she says no at the end of that long convo then just wait...she'll come around eventually......