Firstly, I love my husband dearly. He's a wonderful man in every way. Except in bed. He's on the small side and I just don't feel fulfilled afterwards. I feel miserable. I've even thought of buying a vibrator. I feel just awful!! Any reasonable suggestion would be greatly appreciated!
2007-08-05 11:04:22 · 19 answers · asked by ankhshepsut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to your husband and perhaps you could both think of ways to inject some spice into your sex life. There are lots of other ways to get fulfilled ... oral sex, sex toys etc. Best of luck!!!
2007-08-05 11:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
"There's more than one way to skin a cat."
The bad news is that there is little your husband can do about the size of his genitals. The good news is that there are other ways to bring you to satisfaction and even total ecstasy. In fact, relatively few women are able to attain orgasm through genital intercourse alone. Most require manual and/or oral stimulation as well. Mention this simple fact to your husband and without any reference to his size. Remember, too, that no one knows your body so intimately as you yourself. Do not assume that your husband will somehow instinctively know where your best buttons are. Show him. With just a little cooperation from him, the two of you can still have a wonderful sex life. And, frankly, would it be the end of the world if you got the vibrator, and then handed it to him?
2007-08-05 11:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, hon, firstly, his penis is for HIS pleasure, and his mouth and hands are for yours. You, and he as well, need to read a bit..... and every woman is different.... we each ought to have a manual attached "How to Make Love to This Woman" but we don't. But get these two books. and learn together. As well, buy yourself a vibrator... there is nothing wrong with that.
For Yourself and For Each Other, each by Lonnie Barbach, THE sex therapist in the country today. Hints and ideas you never even thought about in your wildest dreams.. cheap and in paperback, anywhere for from Amazon.com
2007-08-05 11:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to do some experimenting...
Even if your hubby is small it will get the job done. You need to tell him what feels good and what you like. If you are not communicating with your husband about sex and what things you like and do not like then how can you have a wonderful sexual relationship with him?
He is your husband and you should be able to speak to him about this and experiment!
2007-08-05 11:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Susan Goodknight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought to ask or show your husband what you would like for him to do so you could be satisfied?
I think that should be the first step. Maybe if he knew what satisfied you, then you wouldn't be miserable.
Try it. He may just like it. You never know until you try.
2007-08-05 11:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is actually too large it hurts sometimes. I have to use store bought lubrication, so be thankful you're not feeling discomfort sometimes. I guess. They say size doesn't matter. You should watch porn videos and spice things up a bit. When you have a lot of foreplay you won't even notice the size after awhile.
2007-08-05 11:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to learn to help yourself get there or learn to deal with the fact that he is the only one that is going to be pleased in the bedroom. Buy some toys for both of you to use in the bedroom. I know how it feels for him to get there and you lay there feeling unsatisfied over and over again it make you wonder was it worth having to get up and clean up afterwards for.
2007-08-05 12:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by My kids are my life!!! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to discuss this with your husband. If he truly wants to satisfy with you then he will understand. There are many online stores you can visit. Why not ordering something together?
Godd luck.
2007-08-05 11:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel buyn a toy is awful, jus let me knw n i can try 2 help satisfy u.
2007-08-05 20:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by sirdiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly think you should talk to your husband. On a happy note, there's an amazing, wonderful, (I could go on and on),Awesome world of sex you and your husband can experience together that has nothing to do with intercourse. Talk to him and open your minds! He might suprise you.
2007-08-05 11:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋