This is going to be really really long and I'm sorry, but serious answerers please post...
I'm 15, and throughout my life I have had trouble making friends....I'm okay in social situations soemtimes i guess, but when i was really little 3-4, i would always lock myself in my bedroom when we had people over ....this also happened when i was 9 when my mom threw me a birthday party....
I feel like I can't love anyone, or feel love. I just don't really want it either....I hate the words "I love you"...I guess I care about some people, like my mom....but it pains me to say I love you...and i feeel absolultely no emotion when someone tells me that, even my mom.
Is this a pyschotic or mental disorder??? please help! I will probably attend a counselor soon but I would like responses with people of knowledge...
2007-08-05 10:03:10 · 7 answers · asked by fromrussiawithlove 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have never loved my dad, and my parents are divorcing, and they've had a horrible marriage, and he's verbally and emotionally a bit abusive, because he says mean things (but no physical abuse at all)
I also have had issues with self harm (not cutting) but like trichotillomania, and some eating issues...bulimia..
I also am very very very paranoid...
A distant relative of mine had schizophrenia and sadly, committed suicide in a tragic way...do you think it can be genetic???!!
whats wrong with me!!? help!
2007-08-05 10:04:44 · update #1
you should go and talk to someone(your doctor or psychologist), you wont find the proper answers here im afraid. but hang in there
2007-08-05 10:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by iliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the right path if you are going to be having sessions with a "councilor"
I can tell you that anyone who says they 'feel' something every time someone tells them 'I Love You ' Is not being realistic. It is not possible to feel love all of the time.
To know that someone loves you and cares about you is usually the best one can do from day to day. We cannot go around -feeling- all of the time -we would go nuts ! You are on the right track ---keep your appointment with a professional and give yourself permission to be less that perfect. You like every other human on earth have some issues to work out.
I have the feeling that you are going to find out that for the most part you are a pretty normal 15 year old and a pretty insightful one at that.
You know you are not alone ---how do you think all those councilors pay there bills ! You sound pretty smart to me !
2007-08-05 17:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by Bemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have wished I could tell many teens at your age, "just hang on and make it through those crazy years. Things WILL make more sense in time" I think.... No, life is NOT all pretzels and beer, unfortunately, but the older we get, the better we can deal with things. A release between counseling can be put to writing your thoughts down, or art. There ar MANY many people out there who feel your pain and have "been there" and are there right now. Just hang in there !! You are not abnormal or alone.
2007-08-05 17:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by cureus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mental abuse is a lot worse than physical abuse. It is very damaging & harder to heal from. I would totally go see a counseler or some other proffesional. It is worth it. You should not have to feel this way at your age. Hang in there & my prayers are with you & just keep in mind one thing please. Not everyone in the world is going to be abusive. Just try & stay possitive & give others a little chance, it could surprise you. Good Luck
2007-08-05 17:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by Animalfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id really like to help but im not sure wat to say...
idk for me id try to distract myself, or do something thats gna get me through the hard times and make the good times, when they get here, even better. for me at the moment, thats working out.
dont do stuff like that hair thing or bulimia, make your body better instead. go work out and eat right, thats a much better way to get rid of stress and challenging urself.
you cant 'never have loved anyone'...? maybe at the moment u just dont know anyone u like. ull meet someone someday.
also, you do care about your mom, you just dont like putting it into words. thats ok. your counselor will prob be more help than anyone on YA, so go see one. and you do not have a 'mental disorder', just a thing ur going through right now. itll pass.
good luck
2007-08-05 17:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by omgtheykilledkenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang boy!! you are just shy or your just don't want your parents to get a diverse.
my mom moved a lot so she didn't want to make friends a lot because she didn't want to lose a best friend. Now, she is just starting to get best friends, that she can get really close too. maybe you have that same problem. What might help is that you could make friends on the Internet by myspace or club penguin, and then start to make friends with other people. you could make friends through clubs and stuff.
2007-08-05 17:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by iluvme1012345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see a therapist and tell them everything you just told us, plus some. there have been some genetic linkages to having mental disorders, but it's not a guarantee with everything.
2007-08-05 17:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by princess_dnb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋