We have a 3 month old daughter, and my husband thinks she hates him, lol. Almost every time he picks her up, she cries. I tell him it's because he gets frustrated and she can sense it, but he doesn't believe me. I stay at home with her and breastfeed, so she and I have bonded pretty well. How can I help him get along with her better?
2007-08-05 09:48:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
He should get as much time holding her as he can. Particularly holding her in such a way that she can see his face. Skin to skin contact should also help.
He should also do some "just daddy" things. Like daddy has a specific game or song or something.
Hehe and don't forget to tell him to do all the diaper changes while he is home to help him bond... probably diaper changes have little to do with bonding but hey a few diaper changes less for you sounds like a great plan!
2007-08-05 10:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men are uncomfortable with little babies. They see them as little breakable china dolls. They will get to know each other better when she is a little bigger and he is not afraid of holding or hurting her, babies can sense insecurities in the person holding them so they will cry. Have you tried jointly holding the baby that might help. You hold her but he has his arms around you and the baby. Don't worry one day she will be the apple of his eye and you may feel a little out of the picture. When it is time for a little roughousing they will bond.enjoy your little bundle of joy, but don't let your husband feel left out!
2007-08-05 10:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ the pp, have him touch babe while you are nursing sometimes.
Also, have him hold baby skin-to-skin as this promotes bonding. Just cuddling with her with his shirt off and her just wearing a diaper works.
If you have a baby carrier or sling, let him wear her when he's home.
My DH does a lot of diaper duty. It's not glamourous, but it is time spent caring for and interacting with baby. He also took over baths and the bedtime routine.
Most kids go back and forth about which parent they prefer. When they are infants they are dependent on mommy, but as she gets older she'll be "daddy's little girl" :)
I actually just wrote about this here:
http://mamaknj.blogspot.com/2007/07/daddy-and-breast-feeding.html
2007-08-05 10:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mama K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its difficult for Dads especially when your breastfeeding 'cos there missing out on this special time. You could try butting out at bath time (ie leave it for Daddy and Girl time), get him to take her out for walks in the pram just 'them' time. It'll take time for you all to get used to each other so just keep doing what your doing and maybe stand back sometimes and let him do the full Daddy thing. Easier said than done believe me I know but give it a go.
2007-08-05 09:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the house, atleast twice a week or more and let them be alone, it is the only way. I had to do this with my son and they bonded really well. Also get him to change all the daipers and pump some milk in a bottle for him to feed her and bond with her, get him more involved.
2007-08-05 09:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by fiona t 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband is not home much because of work and stay at home with our 3 month old. Sometimes my son is sleeping for th enight when he gets home. When my husband is home I "make" him dress our son, feed him, change his diaper. I wanna do it because I do it th right way. Ha-ha!! Its important your husband takes a deep breathe. Remind hm That he will not hurt her and that she needs to lover her father. I tell my hubby to not be scared of a little thing, just do it.
2007-08-05 09:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right, a baby can sense what people are feeling. He just needs to spend more time talking to her, holding her, maybe walking with her or rocking her, if you have a rocking chair. He has to learn to relax & they will bond, but it'll take time.
2007-08-05 09:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you recommend...i'm Catholic and my daughter attends a Lutheran college, my father's relatives is Lutheran too. The Lutheran settle for and love my daughter as though there wasn't a distinction in faiths. honestly, the Catholic Church does understand Lutheran baptism as valid, considering they baptize with the Trinity. they won't baptize her back, yet settle for the Lutheran baptism once you elect to hold her into the Church. i'm undecided despite if it is your husband providing you with this incorrect information with reference to the Catholic Church, so possibly you're able to consult from the pastoral assistant at his church to get the solutions. i think of what's maximum obligatory right it is what the father and mom choose. additionally, i will invite my daughters instructor immediately approximately despite if or not they rebaptize people who convert to Lutheran. It does not look they might try this with a Catholic considering they the two use the Trinity. Please do not hear to CJ, he's mentally challenged in his loss of religion in Christ. Jesus does not hate baptism of toddlers, all got here to be baptized, no person replaced into skipped over. Christ loves us all.
2016-10-09 06:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out for a day and leave them home alone by themselves. I'm sure your husband is a wonderful husband, but they need time alone to get to know eachother... they'll be fine. Go get your hair done or something.
Relax- it'll be ok.
2007-08-05 09:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by lillian23 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if u are pump ur breast....have ur husband bottle feed to ur daughter then they will get along better,talk to her,play with her.
2007-08-05 10:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋