my girlfriend might be pregnant. i need some advice or help..?

Question

i need some advice.
my girlfriend and i had sex FOR THE FIRST TIME around the 12th of last month, and four more times on later dates in the month. (every time with protection) she usually starts around this time every month, sometimes later and some times sooner. we had some rough sex the last time which was around the 26th, afterwards she said she had bled a small amount on her panties. Then a couple days later she went out of town to help her friend move. that night she only got an hour of sleep and woke up tired and with back pain(but she has always had back pain through-out her life) for the past couple of days shes been tired and has had head and back pain(but i dont know if thats due to the lack of sleep or pregnancy) she woke up this morning with a sore throat, headache and tired body (flu symptoms) in a couple of days she will be 'offically' late so when we gets back from her trip we will test,she has been stressed about this and i am FREAKING out and need some advice...

Answer 1

If she's pregnant you need to decide together what you want, keeping in mind that it's her body. Sounds more like a flu to me than pregnancy. Signs to look for include-
enlarged breasts, darkening nipples, fatigue, and vommiting. Stop worrying, and take care of your woman! You both have alot of thinking to do should that test turn up possitive, and if you used protection properly, without oil based lubricants, such as vasoline- (wich breaks down the latex in a condom) she's most likely not pregnant! (don't freak out yet- it won't help her, and it won't do you any good either). It is possible she agrivated her back while helping her friend move!!

Answer 2

First of all, I know it's hard, but don't panic. A lot of being sick or being in pain can be associated with stress or taking long trips. And a lot of it can be in your head. Although there's a possibility she could be pregnant, if you used protection and nothing bad happened (like broken condom or something), most likely she's fine. If it was her first time having sex (rough) recently, that could be the reason she bled a little bit. Moving heavy stuff can contribute to body pain and being away from home can give you lack of sleep aside from having the body pain as well. Stay calm - when she gets back, do take a pregnancy test. Tell her not to stress from now as well, because that can make your mind go insane thinking about the possibility if you aren't wanting to be pregnant.

Answer 3

the chances are very small if you used protection. it sound slike maybe her back is sore from helping her friend move house,even carrying small items can aggravate an already weak back. she may just be coming down with the flu or a bad cold.you just need to stay calm and hold on until she gets back.if she cannot wait that long,why not ask her to buy a First Response HPT?. it is supposed to show a positive result 5 days early,and she could retest a few days later, just to be sure,as there are 2 in a pack.she can do this while she is away,if you need to know NOW!.good luck!.

Answer 4

If you used protection every time and nothing leaked then most likely she is not pregnant.

Based on what your saying my guess would be she is coming down with the flue, the flue causes all of the symptoms you listed and can cause your period to go off schedule.

Stress can also cause your period to be late, early or even miss it for a month, the doctor calls (missing it) a silent period.Just tell her to drink clear liquids and no solids for a while until the gets over the flue.

Basically what a silent period is, you still have your period you just don't bleed. I have had many during my lifetime which is why I know what it is.

Answer 5

Until she is actually late, don't even worry about it. If you used protection and it didn't break, then the odds are very very very low. (BTW, you sound like most of the girls who post these questions, "OMG what if I'm preggo??")

The short answer is - highly unlikely, you won't know unless / until she's late (which could be due to something else like stress or sickness, too), nothing you can do about it now, and you have to wait for a few weeks before a test will give you a straight answer.

To quote Senator Kennedy, "don't drive off the bridge before you get there!" (OK, he didn't really say that)

Answer 6

end it now, except she is getting an abortion. I hate to declare this, yet this would make yours, her, and perchance the youngster's existence too complicated. To be with somebody on an identical time as they're pregnant with yet another person's baby isn't a competent thought in any respect. There are gonna be a good number of emotions of misunderstanding and feeling obligated and stuff. you're no longer real. do no longer make it.

Answer 7

Try to stay calm, there are many reasons why a woman misses a period, not just pregnancy, maybe she was stressed, changed her eating habits, all seem trivial BUT can cause a period to be late, I suggest if you dont want your girlfriend to be pregnant ...in future you use protection.

Answer 8

With some girls i know that happened, because when they had sex for the first time sometimes your period starts changing up and going all nuts i know mine did. And bleeding a little bit is usually normal. But tell her to go to the doctor just to make sure eveything is OKay.

Answer 9

well, she's not late yet, and you used protection every time. I don't think she's pregnant personally. There were so many times that I thought I was pregnant, but wasn't. the time I actually WAS pregnant, I had not expected it, nor felt any symptoms. Don't worry until she is late, and once she is late (if she's late) go ahead and take a test.

Answer 10

Hate to be rude - but it sound like you are not old enough to handle the consequences of the possible pregnancy.
I hope that all is well and for the both of your sakes tnat she is not pregnant.
A baby is a life long commitment and not everyone is ready for that commitment.