Me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up and i am devastated and im not even sur ewhy we broke up. does anyone know how to get over the pain of a break up when u trulyl oved and cherished that person?
i dont want to care anymore because its almost as if he doesnt care either and i just dont want to hurt anymore. i cry all the time and u would think i was going to break up with him because of the things he put me through not the other way around. but i love him and love conquers all and i need to start feeling like im better off without him. i need good advice to get over heart break because it hurts so bad.
2007-08-05 08:40:41 · 5 answers · asked by nygirlsrdifferent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he told me the reason but it doesnt make sense and i dont believe him.
he told me because he cant be with me right now , he wants to be with me but cant. and that he cant give me the time i want ( i told him i would settle with seeing him once a week) it just doesnt make sense to me so i think he just wants to be free for awhile this is the second time he broke up with me and the reasoning didnt make sense yet he claims he loves me so much he wants to marry one day.
all i know is if you love someone deeply u dont leave them. no matter what
2007-08-05 08:53:59 · update #1
O yeah. he did a lot of hurtful things to me during the 2 years. ive never hurt him i was there with him through everything in his life andi mean everything i treated him like a king. what hurts the most is he made the decision to not stay together and i knew for sure he would regret it how can he not? but now it seems he thinks he made the right decision to have me not in his life anymore but why? i wasnt the one who hurt him! and iknow how much he loved me. when im angry i get over people faster i think i have to keep reminding me about the things he used to do to me that hurt so bad.
i just want him to come crawling back just so i know i meant so much to him thats all i want i want him to feel as hurt as i am feeling. just so i know i am the best thing he will ever find. u know?
2007-08-05 09:09:35 · update #2
I am sorry to hear about your heartbreak. Sometimes we want answers and the answer is not there. The best thing for you to do is to focus on yourself. It is okay to cry, as it is a form of cleansing. Try to do thing you enjoy. Spend some time with some of your friends, go shopping, take a nice bath, read a book by your favorite author, and pray (if you are spiritual). If you boyfriend comes to mind, appreciate the good times, but understand that you time was limited with him. IF it is meant to be it will come back to you. Good luck!
2007-08-05 08:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by syda j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years so I feel ya. I think you just need to let yourself hurt for a little while. Let yourself cry and get angry and get those feelings out.
It sounds like you are better off without the guy, if you have already been broken up before, and if he wasn't good to you then you deserve someone better.
I know it is hard... I'm going through it myself right now. Deep down I know it's for the best and that I will find someone else who I connect with better in the future. But of course I also can't stop thinking about what I could have done differently to make this work out. Blah, it sucks.
If you can, go out with girl friends or family or something. Get your hair done or a facial or whatever, to pamper yourself. But most of all, give yourself time.
2007-08-06 11:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by dream_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes mean you say and he told you hes done but not so much in way for you well its best for you i guess you can cry abit and then move on. yes, its very hard when you care for someone so much i have been through this years ago but learn this never go back cause it will be worse the second time there are so many out there to make you turn your head and are good to women. its time for you to try and see it will make you forget once you find the right person so go
2007-08-08 15:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me..and part of the reason it was so hard to get over him was because i didnt really know the reason we broke up either. so i think that it could help you a lot to talk to your ex and find out the REAL reason for the breakup. trust me...knowing can really help. i wish you the best because i know how tough your situation is..
*Vicky*
2007-08-05 08:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by vicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to always remember all the bad things he did to you.. (it worked for me)
try to get your mind off him,, go out with friends more often, get a hobby or something..
i bet there are better guys out there for you
2007-08-05 08:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Batak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋