Has anyone ever had a fear of success? You have everything it takes yet something holds you back?

Question

What does it mean?

Answer 1

I have. I was constantly praised about some things I could do but I was always putting myself down. I was afraid of:

1) First and foremost being too vain. I didn't want to get a big head or think I was better than anyone else. So I did the opposite: made myself feel like trash.

2) If I were to acknowledge I could do something, I felt like I was obligated to do something with that gift and uphold many standards. That's a lot of pressure.

In the end, I sabotaged myself and it took me awhile to get out of such a toxic mindset.

Answer 2

For me, I think it has to do with the family constellation--what position did the person have in the sibling rankings? I was an only child, living in the country and had little interaction with peers. When I got into school, I didn't want kids to be mad at me, so I agreed with everything anyone said. When I got out into the work field, I was offered a promotion as a supervisor at a job, but was afaid people wouldn't like me, so turned it down. I was afraid, in those days, to take a leadership position. Later, I went through therapy and found my own personality; how to say what I believed and how to not let disagreement overly trouble me. People are different and we each have our right to reach our full potential. It's really worth exploring those formative years!!

Answer 3

yeah.

i can't speak for everyone with this, but in my case and the cases of a few friends - the fear of success is a little more complex than it sounds.

A friend had the skill to be a professional guitarest; he even had a band in LA that was to audition for a record company. He didn't go to that audition - he was afraid that people who hated him in another country would find out where he lived if he became famous.

I found similar cases - where someone wanted success in one area, but that caused an unacceptable problem or worry in some other aspect of their life.

Answer 4

fear of success especially if you have always sabotaged yourself into thinking you are not worthy. you have got to prove those fears wrong push on toward the light... you will learn to love the beautiful exceptional person you really are otthers opinions sometime are used to control you. ignore the negative and surround your self with lifes cheerleaders, im here to be one for you.