How Much Is Your Good Word Worth...If Affected By The Negative Actions Of Others?

Question

For example, if you gave your lover a ring...and s/he cheated on you--would you request the ring back?

If you intended to support a friend's church, and the friend back stabbed you--would you still support the church?

How much is your good word worth...if affected by the negative actions of others?

KISHOR LAL: Your answers was quite refreshing...

DELUX_VERSION: I believe you have the magnifying glass to me. More on this later :-)

LORD Z: When I have you...giving me answers like that...why on earth would I need a television? :-))

Answer 1

Let's start with the 1st ?.
The ring when giving is known to be just to wear, ownership is yours;ie family artifact.
If you gave the ring in order to gain personal favor, this being a rather shallow act, and the cheating brings about you asking to get a present back because they cheated for what ever reason.why give only to take back if for any reason other then "here I want you to have this because I like you for who you are ", this goes to all the action's it took for "person" to become the one your liking at this time of life you like.
The same applies to the church issue as well, are you into doing it, or is it only to gain favor?
There is no price on your self-worth, you do because it feels good no matter what.If the person you gave a gift to became a JERK .You did to feel good for you because you can , not for what it may get you down the road.This leads to bad karma.
In a nut shell dump the #*!# and take this for the life lesson that it is.
There is so much yet that you can find if you focus on the positive,and find ways to get around the hurt, jewlery is just bling and nothing else.

Answer 2

Maybe she is in pain. Some older people have a lot of physical discomfort to deal with on a daily basis. She may also be grieving for the world, friends and family of her youth although she may not realise this. Maybe spending some time with her going through old photograph albums may help. It must be hard as you get older. You farewell so many people and those people are links to more vibrant days. Suddenly you look around and everything has changed. It must feel like the world has become unstable and strange. But she will have seen a lot of life and collected so much wisdom along the way. Maybe all she needs is someone to listen to her stories. Here's a poem for you- Reflections Goodbye young woman with your clear, glowing skin and your natural grace and your thick, flowing hair. Goodbye to your eyes heeding glances quick appraisals and smiles that say 'yes'. Goodbye young mother with your strong, loving arms Goodbye to the stride of your tireless legs and the melting heart of your man as you nurse your new baby. Now welcome the crone life for you not so urgent no need to impress. Answers don't matter and questions are less. Yours is the sifting of gold from the silt. Reflections and visions lend wisdom to words and yours is the world of the spirit on the long pathway home.

Answer 3

Sometimes I wonder if you have a magnifying glass looking into my life! I am no longer a church goer. I've spent a big portion of my life studying philosophy, and of course a huge part of that search was in religious pursuit. It helped me study scripture with new eyes. I noticed our church hadn't been doing something that we were supposed to be doing. Something big! I brought it up in a meeting, and it snow balled till we as a church approached the top banana (not God), however, I found that as soon as I approached this person, the church stepped back, and left me to confront this person alone. David verses Goliath so to speak. I was marked as a trouble maker by this jerk and decided this wasn't the church for me. This and the standard back stabbing that seems to go along with most church groups led me to a solitude life of faith. To answer your question, my word (truth) was turned to represent something evil, by the inaction of others, and the shame of inaction by our pastor. Side note, the church started doing what they had pushed aside before, so, I guess my quest was achieved, but at what cost?

Answer 4

If I was married or engaged and she cheated on me I would call off the relationship on the basis of principle. I wouldn't rule out friendship or possible later considerations depending on the situation. Maybe she cheated for a good reason or during a fight or maybe things progressed too fast. I wouldn't get too worked up over the church issue. I was raised as a catholic and I have had to go along with it during the funerals and weddings. I have respect for my relation but I am not very religious. Too me actions speak louder that a place of worship. I know a lot of greedy people that hide behind their faith.

Answer 5

i think a persons word is worth alot, if they have built up a reputation of good, with that said, i dont see the correlation between the ring, and good word, did you get engaged when you gave the ring? if so, you should ask for it back if the engagement is off, if it was just a gift, then no, you wouldnt ask for it back
you shouldnt support a church just based on a friend, but on the mission of the church, if you made a commitment, and the mission remains true, then you should continue the support,

my word is worth alot, when i give it to a person, i honor it, unless they become unhonorable, if i give it to a cause, i honor it, as long as the cause is true,

Answer 6

I would request the ring back--it was given in good faith, and that faith was broken because of cheating.
If you got something good from that church, and I mean that you respected what the minister said, then you should support that church. One bad apple shouldn't spoil the whole crop.
We need to discern our thoughts about others before we make promises. Our word should be as good as gold.
May God bless you.

Answer 7

Ah!!!

We are check for religion here.

If we are not, we should be.

This is a question of turning the other cheek and staying true to your beliefs.

That is religion.

People can call it ethics but that is ignoring the should implied in the question. It is closer to morality which makes it closer to religion.

So I won't go there.

I'll go to the fact that you need to buy a television.

Right now they have a show called "Big Brother" where they stick people in a house like ants in an ant farm and see how they get along together. Occasionally they like to shake the ant farm up and so that makes for good viewing.

How does this relate to your question?

Glad you asked.

At the end of the show one person gets 500,000 dollars from seven of the people he/she kicks out of the house so inorder to win the money he/she has to turn on his/her friends to get enough votes to win.

"How much is your good word worth if affected by negative actions?"

Case in point, NADA!

Side track to your examples.

The ring is a promise to stay in a relationship, to uphold the principles of that relationship, not to cheat. If you get kicked out of a military academy they take the ring back. If you quit being a minister they take the ring back. You lose your royal title they take the ring back. It only make since that if you walk out of an engagement or marriage they should take the ring back, and most courts agree with that logic. In my mind if I gave you the ring it is yours. I shouldn't be willing to risk anything I am not willing to lose, and believe me losing the ring is a lot less painful than losing the trust you had in that person who cheated on you. Note: don't give away heirlooms.

On with church, I find this question interesting and bizaar. Why would you support a church solely because of the people in it? That pretty much invalidates the "good word" part of this question. You are implying that you only went to church to make them feel better, not you. Naughty, naughty. Achurch is a relationship the same as a marriage or a frienship. You choose a church and in that choice your commitment should stand separate from all other commitments. If you find that one thing is bad do not assume the other thing is bad by association, and vice versa. If the friend is good that does not mean the church is good by association. For me, unless something better has come up in your life that tells you the church is bad, then you made the choice and should stick with what you thought was good at that time. Most churches ask you to make that choice going in and unless you are lying then there must have been something good there.

Back to you buying a television.

Currntly on the show it is obvious to many that there is a liar in the house, a friend who is doing things that make no sense, but his friends have made a commitment to stay together for a while. Each thinks he is lying but can't figure out why. they should get rid of him but that would weaken their position in the competition. So each has indiviually and collectively decided to protect the liar among them, fo now.

This is the don't throw the baby out with the bathwater rational. Just because you know he is evil does not mean that the group is not a good idea.

One of this group in particular is a self exposed Christian and her technique is to knod and go "Um hum" when people talk to her so that they can not use her words against her. She wants to believe that her actions tell about her character but one week she is saying she has to act her contience and the next week she is saying she has to stick up for the group. One week she is saying she would not do something fro greedy reasons. The next week she is passing up a victory for money. They offered her 10,000 to quit but she passed up on that. They offered the victory but it would cost her half the prize money and she refused to give it her all. So, it is not her principles at work here but her greed she said was evil only a week ago. She is keeping the liar for the group, but she has been told that it only makes sense that he is a liar so the group is not safe.

I am telling you this to illustrate your point.

If you like the story and think this would be a show worth watching then you must decide is it worth buying a television.

Of course, if at the end of the show you think the wrong person won are you automatically going to sell the television?

You could but how does that change the fact that you learned that good stories may in fact be on the television. you just have to find them.

You have to find the person for whom the ring you give them when it no longer its gives it back to you so you don't have to ask for it back.

You have to find the church that you beieve in even if the person you care for does not accept your choice.

Your good word is only good if it comes with good will at its root.

It must be good for goodness's sake and not for what you may or may not get out of your word.

That is like equating good and bad with pleasure and pain and not realizing pleasure and pain may vary in intensity.

No go buy that television and watch the ants at play.

Answer 8

Much -good is good some times we make mistakes but good is good we all like it i guess all we can do is to keep trying to do good if someone cant forget and forgive possibly its time to set your thoughts on something else.(if it ain't good don't deal with it . ) In time if your word was good and they rejected it they will regret it, this is bad feeling for them not good we've all been there we've just got to forgive and for get.what ever the issue.- peace-

Answer 9

be more flexible in front of wind...

Answer 10

Your question is showing myself in mirror....

Please take it away