My ex is 34 yrs old, into the devil worshipping crowd, sent me satanic messages when I broke up with him, is about as tall as he is round. Walks like a penguin, has a 2 " penis (probably due to weight), lazy, lies, horrible in bed, not attractive at all. My friends said the only reason, they ever believed I was with him, is because I felt sorry for him. I am one of those bleeding heart type of people. I did befriend him at first because I felt like he needed a friend, he was very geeky. I didn't expect to fall for him. I did not know about the devil worshipping thing until the end. I am now in another relationship, but when I broke up with him, I felt bad, but it actually felt like a burden was lifted off me. Is it wrong to still feel sorry for him? He is a cook and recently took off for one of those acid rock concerts (3 days) over starting a new job? Is it wrong to still feel sorry for him? Do you believe he will always be a loser?
2007-08-05 07:57:09 · 16 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no.you can pity someone without having the need to sleep with them or fall in love with them..I pitied my ex for being a big drinker (or alcoholic I should say)..while we are no longer together and I have no desire to be, I still have pity...it just shows that you are human and can feel for others...just don;t go back in an effort to change them..that never works..
2007-08-05 08:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by eric r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling sorry for someone is no reason to be in a relationship with him. Yeah, this guy is a loser. He sounds like HELL. Get a boyfriend who is attractive to you and shares your values.
2007-08-05 15:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kate J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are what they make of themselves... and his priorities sound pretty messed up.. not to mention his interests... he may need love... but all the love you could give him in the world won't help.... and a person CAN change given the right motivation... but its something they do on their own once they hit rock bottom... and you can't help... so while he may be a loser now... he's got to find his own way to become something more... and that's not going to happen with you holding his hand...
2007-08-05 15:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kristina C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more than likely if he is still like this at age 34 he will probbably always be like that.
he needs to get away from the devil and check out a good church.
you dont want to be around a guy like this
2007-08-05 15:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter whether he's a loser or not?? The real point is that you need to get over him and move on - concentrate on your new relationship, and let him get on with living his life however he choses to.....after all he's an adult, capable of making his own decisions and living with the consequences of them!!..Quit trying to justify to yourself why you were with him to begin with........
2007-08-05 15:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by cautious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should get him out of your life and move on. He's into different things, I wouldn't exactly call him a loser. He's just doing his own thing...but that isn't what you are into.
2007-08-05 15:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by The Curmudgeon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its up to him he is a devil worshipper thats his choice. I feel sorry for him that he will never know true happiness. He may change but again thats up to him.
2007-08-05 15:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by livley_lived_919 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like once a loser always a loser....I'd get away from that guy as fast as you can he's nothing but trouble
2007-08-05 15:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by wolfpak_66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if you can have him put down and save somebody else the trouble. Yeah he is a big loser!
2007-08-05 15:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be sorry for someone who's not sorry enough for himself to change his life for the better?
2007-08-05 15:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by puppies.sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋