What do you do if you don't fit in?

Question

I am very sad and i have nobody to turn to. All i want to do is be someone who iv'e always wanted to be: happy and successful. But it seems that the life ive always dreamed of is impossible. Theres so many other people who i admire and dreamed of their lives as mine.

I just don't fit into society. Maybe i come across unfriendly, i dont know. Or maybe i just dont click with many people for some odd reason. I just find this unfair because everyone seems to fit in fine and even if they dont seem so comfortable, they doing much better than me. I get toungue tied especially with guys and this stops me from doing a lot of things and theres nobody to talk to about this. I never fitted in with sosiety and even my own family.

Ive been through a lot of traumatic situations and im trying my best to get out of it but i reach a dead end. The people who have been through similar situations have so many friends and they cope, but me on the other hand confronts this situations and end up failin

I dont know what to do anymore because whenever i think change is for the best i never had a normal life and never will so it seems. I dont know what i did to deserve this all i want is to fit in and have healthy relationships and situations instead of being consiouse all the time and feeling down because i cant extract one happy thing from my life...

Answer 1

The fact that you don't fit in is not a curse but a blessing. You are different and probably have special gifts. You are probably one of those left brained creative type people. I can relate, so am I. We don't fit in around certain people but can be very creative in our solitude. Most often we are called "loners" and tend to be strong willed. I learned to be witty around strangers and it got helped me out of my shyness. I also realized at a late age that I had a gift of writing. Perhaps you may want to try and put these experiences in a journal. Your purpose may be to help others by writing...an author maybe!

Answer 2

you got to learn to like yourself girl, finding friends is not easy but it can be done, my daughter recently came out of a long term relationship and lost all the friends that had been made due to the fact that they all lived in the area she was living at the time, she started talking to people on the Internet, and although i frowned on this i have to admit it was a good thing. She now has met some like minded people and has a busy social life. Maybe you should give it a go, IT is easy to talk to people when they are not stood in front of you, and this way you can block those that don't fit your needs. Wishing you luck in your search.

Answer 3

we all feel like this at times, but you seem to have too much to cope with right now, and without knowing more details, ie-how old you are and what situations exactly you are in, i feel on here is maybe a bit vague to seek proper viable help. There must be SOMEONE you can talk to, a relative, or even your doctor, you need help to get through this, and i promise you, you will, but its all one HUGE monumental ball of problems right now that feels unsurmountable, you need someone to lean on, share the load, once you have someone to carry you along, you'll feel so much better, i wish you all the best and hope things seem brighter soon

Answer 4

I think the important thing is that you recognize that you want change in your life. I think that you need to talk to your family about this - they are there to love you, and consequently, should be there for you in your time of need. They need to be there to support you during your time of need. Finally, I think that you should try talking to a counselor. They would help you in sorting through your past, which seems to be a reoccurring issue. Until you can sort through those issues, you cannot move forward. Also, it will give you a greater sense of clarity, you'll feel better about yourself, and you'll have a confidence that will allow you to begin those relationships that you've always wanted.

Answer 5

Been right in your shoes! Just don't wait as long as I did for the solution. I came to the end of my rope and Jesus was there waiting for me! It was just that easy. What a wonderful feeling of love and acceptance that comes over you when you ask Jesus to guide your life. Get the book called Battlefield Of The Mind. You will start living in peace and be bold and unafraid because you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! I no longer live in fear. I believe if God brings you to it He will bring you through it!

Answer 6

go see doctor for depression adn ge on meds and then see how it works out. then you just meet people and start little at a time first a one or two and then start talking when you are in lines in grocery store etc. it will come to you and you will feel better remember ones that dont' know you have no idea what is on with you. i am sure you are normal its just your way you feel and you will come out and secure agan.

Answer 7

k m wit u