about pregnancy's effects on relationships and men's minds and attitudes. People offer congrats on being pregnant and I'm not. I am asking thought provoking questions.
So once again to a different crowd. If he is going to think about/lust for chicks with flat abd while you're pregnant, what is the point in having a baby with the man? Wouldn't it less humilitating to be be pregnant with a baby not of his gene pool, some else's baby? I mean if he's not going to be 100% tuned in. Then it's not a couples thing anymore and he can check out whoever. I'm not saying he going to be able to jump some woman's bone's, but he only wishing he could? Why be 100% part of the couple when he's not 100%? I mean how much more can a woman offer then having a baby with a man and then have him think about other women?? Eeeww.
2007-08-05 07:07:27 · 9 answers · asked by so tired 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Looks like hit a few nerves. Thinking is a good think. There are many things in the stores, but I don't tend to browse those asles unless I am unsatified with what I have.
2007-08-05 13:30:39 · update #1
Well, to be honest, you're right. It's pretty selfish of a guy to check out other women and not be on board with the woman he's having a child with. A man should realize that it means a great deal to a woman to be able to create a new life with another human being. It's a way of not only showing your significant other how much you love one another by creating a life that bonds the two of you together forever, but also a way of impacting society in the way that you are raising a person that you will give a set of values and ideals that will be used to impact the world around that child. Its one of the greatest expressions of two people sharing of themselves that one can ever think to see or be a part of.
As for men being pigs, its ridiculous and close minded to say, based on the handful of bad examples that women have come across. Its as if I had said that all women are selfish, money grubbing whores, because the only woman I ever knew was my ex-wife. It boarders on a skewed data set, with very few examples to draw enough data from. The few you may know might in fact be pigs, but rest assured, there are a few of us that are still gentlemen and know how to treat women.
On the other hand, doesn't it say a lot about a person that all they are interested in is a person because of what they look like?
2007-08-05 07:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it a little unrealistic to think that just because two people hook up and have a family that their hormones are completely turned off? He's human, not a computer that's 100% tuned into to whatever application a person wants it tuned into. People's hormones and brains do not come with off buttons. Preganancy is actually irrelevant in this little equation. He's going to look as much as he's going to look no matter what state his girl is in. And so is she.
It's also a fallacy to think that looking at other women = not want her anymore.
When I was pregnant, he looked at other women. I looked at other men, too. When I wasn't pregnant, he looked at other women and Iooked at other men. Nothing's wrong with appreciating an attractive person so long as that's all it is. It'd be different if he had intentions of doing something else. Of course, obvious leering, hooting, and harassing other women isn't a good thing, but if he's the kind of guy to do that in the first place, why keep the relationship even when she's not pregnant?
I think that if a woman is that insecure that she can't handle her mate thinking of other women, then she should probably skip the pregnancy, go man-free for a while, and invest in some therapy. She'll never find a man that'll fit unrealistic expectations and she'll never have that much control over another person anyway.
I think she should also be honest with herself about how often she looks at other guys, too. Especially when her man doesn't measure up in the looks department.
2007-08-05 14:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Muffie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ask this question if it is not relevant to you? I get the feeling you are looking for a reason to be angry with men. This pregnancy vs flat abs question is absolutely ridiculous. I think its fairly well known that the pregnancy and added weight and size takes care of itself in nine months. If a man looks (call it lust if you want) at another woman while his wife is pregnant, its not because she is pregnant, its because thats what guys do. In the long run the pregnancy is only a very short time. Don't forget also, that in many relationships a man's future wife may have been the "other woman". I don't understand the venom in your use of the phrase "Eeeww". For cryin' out loud, are you angry with women too?
2007-08-05 20:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Karnak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said husbands do that?
That is ridiculous it shows a lack of trust on the wife's part to believe such a thing. Either your husband loves YOU or he Dosn't.
He will find you even more beautiful pregnant with his child then at any other time, he should tell you that you glow all these things.
If someone tells you that he is doing this while his wife is pregnant well you know feel sorry for the wife she married an a hole
2007-08-05 14:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man is the father of the child, hopefully he's into the pregnancy and thinking of family and not, as you put it, "lust for chicks with flat abs". I suppose they'll think of other women at times, just like women think of other men at times...but I'm not sure it really means much.
2007-08-05 14:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, married and soon to be married heterosexual men have ALWAYS looked at and fantasized about other women... regardless of their culture and/or religion. Always have, always will.
In fact, my wife of 28 years says she'll start worrying when I *stop* looking at other women! I routinely look at and fantasize about girls and other women. Yet the last time I had ANY kind of relationship, including sex, with any other woman besides my wife was three years before we married.
2007-08-05 15:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by watergoat06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men lust after other woman ALL THE TIME---it's just that if they're smart, they keep their mouth shut.
So its no different when the woman is pregnant--although her feelings would be more hurt than usual if she knew, because she is probably feeling self-conscious and undesirable.
Men are just pigs, whether they admit it or not--we just have to choose the ones that hide it better.
2007-08-05 14:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What exactly is going on here? I got the question with regard to pregnancy and its effects on relationships, but then somewhere I did get lost. God Bless.
2007-08-08 03:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People read what interest them, and if it exist or not they have an interest to it.
2007-08-05 16:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋