Im not true about my sexuality in school like ofcourse i dont tell anyone that i am bi but everyone calls me gay and says that i act like a girl but i dont think i do?! What shall i do?
2007-08-05 05:07:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just be yourself, and know that you are a better person than those who try to insult you.
2007-08-05 05:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by sudonym x 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is hit one of them in the mouth. Once will be enough to let them know there will be a cost to bothering you, you will be bothered less.
Getting over the problem of embarassment takes time and many embarassments endured, but in the end you will be stronger.
Most bisexual guys are usually not called "just like a girl" Queer or fag are the usual for them. But it is still possible you are really bi-sexual. The desire for actual sex with one female or another is critical to determine this, for yourself. (although an expert can determine sexuality by other things as well, there are hardly any experts.)
The best thing to do is to find guys like yourself and hang out with them only. Look for them a little older and younger also. We are in the minority and have to find friends where we can. Also, by the way, go over what you write before sending. Make it clearer. This will help your thinking. And better thinking makes better decisions.
One more thing: As you grow, you should always seek independance. Try to do more and more things for yourself. Never hang around anyone because you feel "lonely". Be with someone good for you or no-one. In doing tasks, it is not necessasary to do everything by yourself, but each time you do something, ask yourself if it isn't better that you do do it by yourself. In this way you increase independance. (some people say "gain" independance or "be" independant. I think this is hurtful, leaving many to wonder when they ever will.) As independance increases, emotional strength does also, and automatically. Then we find insult and calamity have much less effect, also automatically.
You sound to be at a difficult point. If I can help you more, I will.
2007-08-05 05:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm probably significantly older than you, I chose not to address anyone that calls me gay or thinks that I am gay or whatever. When I decide to tell me what I am then I will and then I have the confidence in myself that it is a non-issue and don't let it bother me.
Just act with dignity and respect yourself. Try to educate those who are saying that you are gay, without being something that you are not.
Sometimes name calling is a way for others to hide their fears or feel better about themselves because they have low self esteem.
Make sure you have good support system. Good luck.
2007-08-05 05:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by wellnotright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be your best self. If you are bi, then, be bi. People who do not understand things are afraid of things. Many people cannot imagine that people are born gay, lesbian, or anything but heterosexual. So, these people figure you chose to be different than them. That's pretty scary for an uneducated person. Putting you down makes them feel as if they are 'better' than you. That is their loss. Be friendly and caring, and BE a friend.
2007-08-05 05:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by laurel g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that you are going through such a terrible experience. Try to be "thick" skinned. Just lay low and try to get through there as fast as possible. Believe me it gets better. If it is really bad and you can't seem to function well, you could talk to your counselor about the harassment. You don't have to come out to them but let them know that it does make you uncomfortable that people are treating you badly.
2007-08-05 05:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Loco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its true and you probably do act like it but u dont know it but every one should x cept u 4 u unless u have really sucky friends! 4 get them just be you and oplus every one likes to have a gay friend around them they are funny and full of life good luck
2007-08-05 05:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore what they say. Speak up about your sexuality whhen you feel ready. People could just be joking around, (or just plain mean) and not know how close to true it hits.
2007-08-05 05:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Zion Wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High school is an insane environment where modern children are allowed to act like uncivilized stone-age boneheads.
Hang in there, and accept yourself for who you are.
2007-08-05 05:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them.
2007-08-05 05:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that's the way you are admit it and be happy!!!!!!!! it's the best thing to do than to be humiliated =)
2007-08-05 05:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by Askme =] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋