Sorry for anyone whos read my same question-. I just need more advice.
I dated a kid years ago.. hes alway been the "one that got away" and that i never quite got over. Im to the point now where I still think about him (more then i should) but i know that we dont belong together.
I currently am head over heels in love with my boyfriend. I hope to get engaged soon.. and i love him to death and would leave him for no one.
But why do i still think of my ex? Does it ever really truly go away? The simple answer would be people saying "you dont really love your current if you still have feellings for your ex"- but i dont think thats true. I am deeply in love with my current.. but i would still get upset if i found out my ex had a girlfriend.
I think i should cut off contact with my ex completely (we talk online sometimes) since i do feel this way. I obviously cant handle being "friends" right? Do you agree? Should i tell him why? Has anyone experienced this?
2007-08-05 04:15:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have most definitely experienced this. I however, am no longer in contact with this person. There is no real way, for ME to tell you why though. It is something with this person, that clicks with you. Only you will know that.
Now, that connection, is a strong connection. If you want your current relationship to work out, you need to cut the contact with your ex. Reason being, if you continue to talk to him, it may bring out more feelings then you want to come out. You can try to confront him about it, and tell him why, but you should be careful.
Don't put yourself, into a situation you need to get out of. Talking with him, puts you in a situation, where you may need to get out of it. Do your best to cut contact, and concentrate that energy on your current love life.
I hope everything works out.
2007-08-05 04:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you shared something special with someone some time ago it's not something you would forget. Your memory is still there and it's not expexted to fully forget about someone unless you want your memory wiped, which is, yah, do you want your memory wiped?
As long as you would choose your current bf over ur ex then i guess ur okay. getting upset about ur ex having a gf is just a possisive thing, let it pass. depending on how upset you get with your ex your should cut contact if it's really interferring with your current love. i'm still friends with my ex and it took me 3 months two get over him, i get jealous when he finds other girls but i know i don't love him anymore
2007-08-05 04:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am really guessing here, but.....
I think you have idealized the old relationship somewhat, and think your life might have been better if you 2 had stayed together. I especially think that the relationship is not 100 percent finished in your head - kind of like if you had planned a future together, and you are still grieving that future that isn't going to happen.
2007-08-05 09:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL at each and every of the persons who say "guy hates homosexuality" IF humankind extremely did, do not you think of there could be plenty much less of it? however the factor is that God hates the sinner, n ot the sin. it is people who circulate the line and hate the sinner FOR The sin.
2016-10-09 06:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by mehan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say infatuation more than anything. An ideal that will never be compromised because it is impossible for you to return.
2007-08-05 05:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lorenzo H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋