Both of us are good friends.......I can only see him for two more months cause after that we are going to graduate and most probably may not see each other after graduation......what should I do...I really like him...
2007-08-05 03:52:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What would the point be? You know that he is straight and nothing will come of it. Telling him of your feelings would be a moot point. If your friendship is strong and he does not know you are gay, you can tell him that. That will strengthen the friendship is he is truly a great guy.
2007-08-05 03:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make the same mistake I made. I actually broke off a friendship with a great guy because I thought that my sexual attraction to him might ruin our friendship. Cut to a few years later when I ran into him again. He was still baffled about why I suddenly didn't like him anymore, and I finally explained everything. He was relieved, angry and sad all at once, because he said that if I'd been honest with him, he would've understood.
He said that he would've been a little freaked out about the whole "crush" thing, but what hurt him the most is that we were supposed to be good friends, but I felt for some reason that I couldn't trust him enough to tell him I was gay. Friends should be close enough to tell each other anything, especially best friends.
So the best thing to do would be to come out to him...but don't let him know about the attraction right away. See how he reacts to your being gay first, and that will tell you if and when you can take the next step. If he is a good friend, he'll understand. If not, then you will always meet other friends down the road.
2007-08-05 11:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by dreamchaser8860 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience. . . might I suggest you NOT say you "like" him. You don't mention whether or not he knows you're gay, and since your friends, I'd consider telling him that - but if you know for sure he's straight, you really don't have much to gain by speaking up about your crush. He probobly senses by your attitute and body language and other non-verbal cues that there is a unique bond between the two of you - and a gay man can have a healthy bond with a straight man- but dropping a bomb like that could possibly make a mess of things. Since you anticipate going seperate ways, go with fond memories, and when the time comes, you may start the kind of relationship you seek with someone else who plays for the same team.
2007-08-05 11:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by Todd T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are already friends, you have nothing more to gain by telling him you 'like' him. There is always the chance that he would sever the friendship if it made him feel uncomfortable to be around you, after you expressed your deeper feelings.
Now would be a good time to exchange email addys, snail mail addresses and phone numbers, if you have not already done so. At least you can keep in touch after graduation, and maintain your friendship.
2007-08-05 11:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by sandyblondegirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know he's straight keep your mouth shut if he already knows your gay then he probably already knows you like him, and has been nice enough to not exclude you from his life as a friend but by putting it out there he may not feel comfortable with it in the open that you have the hots for him and may never want to talk to you again even though after graduation you may still remain friends.
2007-08-05 10:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're getting good advice here. I'm straight and have a gay friend I know had a crush on me in the past. I didn't have that big of problem with that, but if he'd tried to push things (and to me, telling me he did would have been pushing them), things would have gotten awkward between us, quickly.
2007-08-05 11:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know he is not gay you are setting yourself up for rejection, even losing him as a friend. Find someone else who will reciprocate your affections.
2007-08-05 11:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by tetris60 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... if he's not gay and you know he's not gay, I would keep it to myself and try to get over it.
He might find it disturbing.
Let me just put it this way, If my girlfriend told me that she literally wanted to be my girlfriend, I would find it akward. aaannnd prolly avoid her.
And I'm a total f*g hag! Hooray gay people! Their awesome!
It would still suck.
definately keep it to yourself.
2007-08-05 11:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by manda p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might lose a friend if you tell a straight person.
2007-08-05 10:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by Bright 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. He should know why you hang around.
2007-08-05 11:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋