His issues with his ex wife are crazy. Previously to her filing on him for child support, I knew he paid her in cash etc. I even said, with her issues, you should contact the court and change this, because she could come back and say you didn`t pay a dime, well that`s what she has done, at the time I mentioned this to him, he responded with it`s his business and such. I understand he has to protect his daughter, etc, But it seems like he could figure out something for his daughter to live with him due to the ex using meth. BUT to add more, he lives with his mother, he does work, now they have garnished his wages and we talked yesterday and he tells me that there probably won`t be a future for us now because of all this and that he feels bad for me having to go through this with him. It seems to me this ex holds all the control. They all walk on egg shells with her. It`s sickening. Aren`t any of them concerned that she is a meth addict, teacher and a mother? How disturbing is that?
2007-08-05 03:42:19 · 6 answers · asked by JuNkGyPsY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
have him pay by check or money order to cover his butt
2007-08-08 23:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to be turned into child protective services of the meth addiction, and child neglect. The will typically come out every week, and test her regularly, and if they are smart, they will do a hair follicle test, this give them a time line of all drugs she has done, and the last time she has done them. But he did make the mistake of paying her cash because e unless she wrote him a receipt, there is no record, and no way to prove that it has been paid, and the burden of proof is on him. I think that if I were you, I would move on. and let this man figure out his life, he may very well end up with custody of him daughter, and if the mother is a drug addict, I hope he does. Just for now stay a close supportive friend, that is what he needs.
2007-08-05 10:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...she's really got him in a bind. You are right. It is frustrating to know that she's trying to control the whole situation. Now he has wages garnished, court dates and it is ruining his happiness with you. He seems to be trying his best to do the right thing and be responsible. He made a big mistake though by trusting she wouldn't pull this on him especially if she's a meth addict. Did he not have ANY proof he'd given her money?
You have to decide if you are willing to remain by his side through this ordeal. If you are then let him know you will be there for him regardless of what crap she tries to pull. Now that he's paying his supposed debt to her, he has the right to notify the courts (or child protective services) that this woman is not only raising his child while on meth but teaching the children of others while under the influence. He has rights too as a parent and could pursue custody if that is what's best for his kid. I am sure they walk on egg shells for her because of her prior threat of suing but now that she has, she's given him equal rights. Don't let him walk away with his head hung because she's screwed him over. If you are in this for the long run, stand by him and encourage him to do what's right for this poor child. Let him know you hated to see this happen (you knew it would) but that you will not let her ruin what you two have too. You guys should not give her the satisfaction and let this end it. She needs to be dealt with in court and he'll need all the support he can get. Imagine this woman as your mother...truly disturbing! Best of luck to you both.
2007-08-05 11:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by mickeymel9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be PROOF that she is a meth addict. Your accusing her of such is no proof. Again (since I said this once before) He paid her in cash but was stupid enough to not get proof that he paid. That's not HER fault that is HIS fault. The law does NOT compensate for stupidity.
2007-08-05 20:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to get custody of those children ... before something horrible happens to them ... children need a stable life ... which a meth addict can't give ... that seems to be the only solution to your problem ...
2007-08-05 10:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Amethyst_Moonfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think yu should let the cat out of the bag, make an anonymous tip to child protective services on her and you can tip off the schoolboard, they will most likely put her on administrative leave pending an investigation, and if they find she has been using she will loose her job, if either schoolboard or child protective services finds that she has been using, you can sue for full custody and have the child support overturned
2007-08-05 10:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by sexy joker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋