he will go but its not going to change anything?
2007-08-05 03:38:36 · 5 answers · asked by beba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can he say he doesn't have feelings for me yet he has come over twice to sleep with me in the last two weeks, most recent as last Sunday?
2007-08-05 03:50:06 · update #1
Do you guys think he may have some feelings for me or is it just sexual pleasure, because as i see it if he had someone else then wouldn't he go to them rather than come to me?
2007-08-05 03:50:51 · update #2
Marriage counseling willonly work if both parties enter voluntarlly with an open heart and mind and most importantly want the same result. There have been incidents of where one unwilling spouse changed their mind was they started going and good things happened but these cases are very rare but do happen. Good luck
2007-08-05 03:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one, and u r smart enuf 2 know this, quit sleeping with him if he's refusing 2 keep an open mind at marriage counciling since he's already said nothing will change...other than sex that is..u can lead a horse to water but u can't make him drink.
Number 2, it took 2 to have a marriage it takes two to mend/repair it, if he's only interrested in the makeup sex and not interrested in putting any effort into the marriage counciling, i'd say goodbye.
2007-08-05 05:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is only going to the sessions because he is being forced to go by court order, all it will do is cause him to harden his positions. You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink. You can drag him to a counseling session, but if he is not willing to participate, he is just going to sit there.
Right now he has the best of both worlds, in his view! He has his freedom (not living with you) and still is getting the sex when he wants it! Why should he change?
2007-08-05 04:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by fire4511 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not successful at all. It sounds like this person has already made up his mind about your marriage. It may be best to let it go and find someone who will make you happy. Best of luck,
2007-08-05 03:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by beaniebaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both don't have an open mind it usually won't work.
Don't be discouraged though....sometimes a marriage can benefit from just one spouse going.
2007-08-05 03:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋