its the first time i'll be meeting my boyfriend's parents (soon). they're somewhat the aloof, quiet type of parents, and they're quite intimidating. even thinking about it now is nerve wracking.
think of his mom like J.Lo's mother in law in "monster in law" (but the silent & deadly type). and i know his dad is the silent type too, like serious and a man of few words.
how should i "befriend" them? i easily get tensed in uncomfortable situations, i really dont know how to approach or prepare for such occasion.
2007-08-05 03:18:29 · 10 answers · asked by jashmika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If they are the type as you exactly said they were-do not speak at all unless spoken to.
Anything they ask you that intimidates you or makes you feel as if its a trick question, answer back politely with "meaning what. Sorry I don't understand what you're saying". That will make them have to talk & likely hang themselves with trick questions.
Do not start any conversations, let them do the leading & you be polite,nice & .....sweet. and by all means-have a friend to call your cell phone 20-30 minutes after you arrive with a perfect reason to exit the place should it be uncomfortable for you & you wish to exit.Do not tell the B/F that plan of escape.
Good Luck, relax & go with the flow
2007-08-13 03:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you get these descriptions about his parents from him? Remember, the mother will look for how you treat him, the father may think "here comes another one". Ask your boyfriend to make it short and sweet. If you are in a serious relationship you may want to think of bringing her some flowers, find out if she likes them first and is not allergic. She may also ask you about your family. This will show her how close you are to your parents. No matter what, be yourself, that is after all what her son fell in love with.
2007-08-13 02:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by dear_vern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, just be yourself. Relax. I too remember how uncomfortable I was. Well it went ok. His mom didn't care for me because I was divorced with a child! OOOO But now, after 31 years, she's like I knew you would make it. Yea right. My father in law always liked me, he's gone now. But you can not do a thing about what they think. My husband and I have done very well, but only because we moved over 1300 miles away after a couple of years. lol HUGS
2007-08-05 03:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, then ask your boyfriend what his parents do in their spare time. Maybe dig a little deeper and find out more specifics. That way you have something to talk about with them. More important, watch how your boyfriend acts around them. If he is protective of you and trying to be their to help you then he may be a keeper. If he is more worried about what they say and do then about how you are, that may be a warning sign.
2007-08-11 19:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by terrysupreme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be yourself. If you're fake, they won't be liking you for you. Just like in Monster In Law, the mother has to deal with Jennifer being herself because her son loves her, and obviously his mother isn't going to change that. Be friendly, talk about things you know and that you know his parents are interested in. Hopefully it works!
2007-08-05 03:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't giggle. Don't talk too much. Listen carefully to what they have to say. Offer to help with everything (setting the table, doing the dishes, etc., if you are there for dinner...) Then relax.
2007-08-12 19:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listern all you have to do is be your self and don't worry to much about them either they except you as you are there is no need to try and be someone your not.
best of luck
2007-08-13 03:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know they are aloof if you've never met them? They may be that way towards their son it doesn't mean they'll be that way towards you. Relax you worry way too much!!!
2007-08-09 04:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by inhis_image 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you walk in shake their hands say hello and then you will all sit down and someone will be talking mostly listen and be nice and kind that is how it works dont' be loud and that it will work out for you.
2007-08-08 14:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silence is golden. Be polite and smile but don't talk too much.
Answer politely and friendly when spoken to.
2007-08-05 03:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by nan4six 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋