2007-08-05 02:28:44 · 17 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sign for the sake of peace.
2007-08-05 02:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will prolong it some but why would you want to prolong the inevitable. The divorce will happen regardless of if you choose to make it as difficult as possible. While you may not want a divorce, it seems that your spouse does and is moving forward with it. In the end of all of this, it will not be your spouse that is hurting, it will be you. You can not force somone to stay with you if they do not want to. You need to just take one day at a time and try and move on and make a new life for yourself.
2007-08-05 09:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You make me sick. My best friend's husband is putting her through the same bs you're putting your husband through. He's refusing to sign her divorce papers and will not let her move on with her life because he's selfish just like you. How dare you try to FORCE someone to stay in a relationship with you against their will? It's ok though. Seeing that you've already been served with the papers, the divorce will automatically be finalized after a certain amount of time if you don't reply or sign them. If you do sign them then of course the divorce will be official the minute you do so you're screwed either way =] After seeing all of the crap that my best friend is having to go through with her sorry *** husband I can't help but feel bitter towards people like you. Besides all of that, what is wrong with you that you would try to make someone stay with you when they so obviously don't want to? Low self-esteem or just extreme selfishness? Grow up and let the man move on already!!! He doesn't want to be with you anymore!!!
2007-08-07 20:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tiacola Version 9.0 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were served papers, you have a certain amount of time in order to "answer" those papers, if you don't a default decree of divorce will be granted the day after the time limit. It's usually 30 to 90 days. If you answered then you have to go to court and battle it out for however long it takes. If you answered and don't want a long battle just sign the papers.
2007-08-05 21:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are within the US and your partner wants a divorce, then you have very little choice in the matter. If you do not sign the paperwork then it may prolong it for a month or two, but I wouldn't want to. If your partner has made up his/her mind, then you are just prolonging the inevitable and causing yourself more pain.
2007-08-05 09:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's made his mind up, then I ask u this question...how long can u take the pain of postponing it. Will it b ok that he's sexually involved with another? Can u sleep with all that roaming around in ur mind?
I have been here and can tell you with conviction, for your own health and wellbeing, if a marriage councelor is out and he has his mind made up, u have no chance whatsoever to hold out until u think he'll come to his senses, how many years from now that may be.
For your own peace of mind and life to look forward to, don't do this to yourself, you'll regret it I guarantee.
2007-08-05 12:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately for you not that long. it depends what state you are in. but some states wheather you sign or not the judge can still grant the divorce. some states you can contest it twice. hard to say but if your soon to be ex is willing if you sign or not they can still be divorced from you within a year.
2007-08-05 09:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by MotherTeresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry your husband is divorcing you. As the others have said, he will get his divorce no matter how long you wait. Things aren't going to change, and it would be kinder on yourself to move on and start your new life.
2007-08-05 09:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Janey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may depend on what state you live in. b/c here in CA, you hv 30 days to respond. otherwise, it will automatically default in favor of the petitioner. i learned that once your spouse files for divorce, you cant fight it. as much as you may not want to divorce, you really hv no choice.
btw, what is the reason behind it...infidelity, i assume?
2007-08-05 10:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Till he take you to court. Can't have a 1 sided marr== so let it go an have some piece of mind.
2007-08-05 10:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after seperation about 2 years, he still can get a divorce ok, the different is only at the lawyer fees.
2007-08-05 09:33:41 · answer #11 · answered by moonrider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋