Why are older men prone to the Victor Meldrew syndrome meaning they have to find fault with everything!!!???

Answer 1

My dad's the same. He's 61.

Answer 2

Its a load of bilge! I'm 50, and, yes, I've had to make adjustments to my lifestyle to cope with the physical side of ageing, but I've found I've become a lot more tolerant than I was ten years ago.

The key is to keep trying new things, not allowing yourself to get stuck in a rut. Grin at what others gape at.

I lost my job after 30 years with the same firm - career straight down the pan - hooray, no more commuting! I cannot bowl medium pace in cricket any more, so I've learned to spin the ball.

It is important to ensure that ones commitments are maneagable, however. How many middle-aged men are grumpy because they have to work in a lower paid job and do not have the money to go out. Sitting in front of a TV is bound to make one cheesed off!

Yes, I do rant on a bit at times, especially on here, but the key is to rant effectively - to have anwers and reasons for one's rant. Simply sounding off because the bus only runs every half hour is no good for anyone!

Answer 3

Every body has his own nature but yes it is a common phenomenon. Almost all elderly people find fault with almost every thing. There are two reasons for their such behavior:
1) It has always been difficult for every one to accept changes. We prefer our values because we feel comfort with these but our next generation will have different due to constant change in the world. This will make us frustrated too as well as it makes our elders now.
2) They have great deal of experience on their bended backs and they already know certain realities of life which we try to know/explore by our own. They know that fire burns but we burn our hands to know this reality instead of taking advantage of their experience which they have already gone through.

Answer 4

As I get older, I find I am also slowing down. I don't have many friends left as they are all dying round about me. Everything is changing at an unbelievable rate, and my poor brain cant keep up with it all. People I don't know call me grandad or Pop, not to mention the arthritis and the pain of angina. I honestly look forward to my final day, just to get it over and done with.

Answer 5

Answer: Because the 'faults' are easier to see as you get older ~ as they likely become more personal as they get in your way (= they are unnecessarily from the actions of careless / 'stupid' individuals).

Huge doors which swing both ways ~ only you find one of the damned things are locked, so everyone has to use the same door which causes a bottleneck ~ whilst there is a second set of the same double doors and no one is using either of them!!!!

Fault with the person who didn't unlock all four doors, Fault with the morons who all jam themselves into one door, Fault with the morons who CANNOT see there is a second set of doors...... And there is more.

Sash.

Answer 6

I think men feel much societal pressure to be perfect and succeed in life or they think the will be viewed as "weak". As they age they get scared because time is running out so they want to equalize the playing field and reduce thier cognitive dissonance (reconciling ones mindset with reality). It is human nature and everyone worldwide can make this a better place to live by refusing to be judgemental. All Men/Woman are created equal and those who think they are better than others don't "get it". I think war will cease to exist only when everyone gets it.

Answer 7

Aw come on... The face is sagging, the legs don't work as well as they used, not to mention the rest of the bits.
But they are allowed some fun. Why not make everyone else's life a misery?

Answer 8

OMG i've noticed that too, my father (60) and my uncle 63(his brother) find fault in everything and everyone - it's impossible - you clean the house - they comment that the garden is overgrown you cut the grass and they say your house is untidy - sorry personnal experience of this really winds me up ahhhhhhhh

Answer 9

Because as they get older, they start to find their body can't do as much as it used to, and they get aches and pains, and get frustrated with them selves, and take it out on others around them. I think. Ahh, I don't believe it!
This can often be funny to the onlooker, but when life becomes pain full, and you just can't do the things you used to enjoy doing. It's no joke.

Answer 10

OMG, I asked this question the other day and it was removed!!!! My other half is such a VM and he is 41. What a nit picker! and i don't know what to do to make him snap out of it!

Answer 11

'cos its funny and they just dont give a s**t about upsetting anybody any more. Must admit some things do just seem more and more patently absured as one gets older.