she found his email address from an old email and just thought she would write him. she wants to meet up for dinner to catch up. she also mentioned that she often thinks about a wild time they had together that included another girl, hotel room and liquor. i'm not sure how i'm suppose to feel about this. its not the fact that he was with her before but that he involved in that hotel room which is a side of him i never knew. now i feel like i should just keep expecting the unexpected from him. should i tell him he can go for dinner with her? if they did meet i wouldn't be able to be there. i don;t care that he has had past relationships, so have i. i just feel strange about that whole experience he had with her that just doesn't seem like him. do i even know him?
2007-08-05 01:26:35 · 10 answers · asked by J1983 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I didn't break into his email or anything. we both know each other'spasswords for everything. we were sitting next to eachother. i read it out to him. when she said about the wild time they had in the hotel with this other girl he looked nervous. i didn't flip out or over react. i asked a few questions and let it pass. its just been on my mind since. its not that i don't trust him, its her
2007-08-05 01:53:50 · update #1
i wouldn't trust her either! she's obviously trashy and he got drunk and joined her - in the past - like you said. you seem to have a good head on your shoulders - trust your judgement.
i see no reason for him to have dinner with her, though or to "catch up". the fact that she "often thinks about" their wild time together doesn't show a good intention.
you can't forbid him to go - he has to make his own decision.
then you can decide from there if it was just a random, foolish thing he did (which we all have in our lives) or whether he is the man you think he is.
2007-08-05 03:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by shyanne 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all... did he show you this e-mail, or did you read his e-mail without permission!? Because if you did, you just invaded his privacy, and he may get upset with you because of that.... It doesn't matter what she wrote to him, you may have just lost his trust in you, if he finds out you read his e-mail.
Second... If he truly loves you, he will tell this other girl, "thanks but no thanks... I have a fiancee now, and it would not be appropriate for us to have dinner together alone." BUT maybe he could suggest a double date? He sshould let her know that he is engaged now, regardless, and that those kind of memories need to stay memories.
He also may be a little ashamed of what he did before, may be he has changed! Perhaps he thought you'd react poorly if he told you... and seeing how you are reacting here, I am assuming he was correct.
BUT give him a chance - NOT all guys are pigs. Has he given you a reason to doubt him? Because honey, if you can't trust him... then you two should not be engaged. A relationship requires 100% trust!
2007-08-05 01:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem here is not so much that he may have dinner with her but that you found out something about him you never thought possible. Perhaps you should talk to him and tell him how it's making you feel. If he truly cares for you, he'll take your feelings into consideration and not see her. It's never good to see an ex that's bringing up past sexual escapades.
2007-08-05 01:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by lanagrl78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for him to meet her. That would be a bad idea. If he does meet her, that's a problem. If he loves and respects you, he won't meet her.
As for his past, we've all done stuff like that the main issue is that we don't do it anymore. Think of the diseases he got from this girl. People like her sleep around with lots of different people.
2007-08-05 02:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by asldfkjdfj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the past aside. Tell him you are interested to join in for dinner and see how he react. It is perfectly fine for him to bring you along and introduce you to her.
If they will to hv dinner without you, ha congrats to you. You can forgetting married him. Something bound to happen after the dinner.
2007-08-05 04:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. The past is the past and he should not even entertain the possibility of seeing her to catch up on old times unless he intends to be doing that with you in the near future as well. The past is the past and that is none of your business. He needs to tell t his girl about you and let her know that he is unavailable to reminisce.... unless he intends for you to be there too.
2007-08-05 01:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberlee Ann 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between old friends an lovers?? If he wan't to see her than that tells you where you stand? Put a hold a Marr=== for quite a while till you learn more about him>>
2007-08-05 03:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on his attitude to it. Did he get excited or embarrassed when the email arrived? Is he flaunting it? Denying it?
If he loves you he wont go to dinner with her......surely???
I know what I'd do if he did go.
2007-08-05 01:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
old friends will pop up many times in years coming in any relationship ,be it male or female asv long as shes not after your man let it go be a friend to her with him but if you still distrust? tell her ,hey don,t mess with my man....
2007-08-05 02:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by passionatetrauma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce her dont marry her
2007-08-05 01:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by gopish prasad 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋