then put it up for adoption?
Wouldn't you rather see a young couple, who are not able to have children, and would love nothing more than to be able to bring a baby into their lives, to love and care for, adopt your baby, as opposed to killing your own flesh and blood???
2007-08-04 23:03:33 · 26 answers · asked by Dalmatian lady 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if you are not mentally, physically, or financially ready to have a baby, then you aren't ready for sex. it's not the babies fault that the circumstances are such as rape, faulty birth control, etc. the heart starts beating at 3 weeks. it's a baby. just because you are selfish and don't WANT to give the baby a fighting chance at life, doesn't mean you aren't murdering your baby. YOU had sex, YOU need to be responsible.
if you were raped, it doesn't mean that there will be something wrong with the baby. it's not the baby's fault, so adoption is the only choice.
2007-08-04 23:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
Before a young woman can make a decision like that she takes allot into consideration. there are risks and pain involved and in some cases you go through all of that never to have the same body again, all to make other people happy. The flesh and blood aspect plays a bigger role if you are a religious individual. But there are allot of children out there ready for adoption. Sad thing that so many young parents who cannot concive, and feel the need to pass judgements on others for being selfish, don't want black babies. Not to mention the fact you don't know what will happen to the child in foster care, abuse, drugs, neglect. It is all not sunshine puppies and rainbows.
2007-08-10 18:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by lissieJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are situations where having a baby would be harmful to a mother's health. There are situations when the pregnancy is the result of a rape. There are infants that, when born, will almost immediately die or suffer a very painful and short lifetime because of certain diseases or ailments. There are many reasons why people choose to have an abortion other than the arbitrary reason of "killing your baby."
As for the argument that you can still raise a child after being the victim of rape, do you think, honestly, that you can raise a child with all of your love when he or she is a living, breathing reminder of the most horrific day of day of your life? It would take an extremely strong-willed person to do that, and those people are rare. I certainly wouldn't be able to do it.
I also want to point out the adoption network in this country can be very cruel. Children that aren't adopted before infancy very rarely get adopted, and even infants don't have a 100% chance of getting adopted. Some people may also choose not to put their children through that.
FYI, I am anti-abortion, and it will never be a part of my household, but I do not hold it against people that do it. I am not their judge and jury nor their maker, and like I said here are plenty of justified reasons for having an abortion.
2007-08-05 06:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Secret Asian Man 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Ok I have had an abortion and it was not a selfish decision to do so because I didnt want to be a parent. It was nothing like that at all. The reason me and my partner chose to do this is because we are not financially stable to support ourselves let alone a child. It would be cruel to bring a child into a world of poverty. When we decide to have children, we want to be able to provide for them and give them the best life possible. I know a lot of people keep on saying why not just give it up for adoption but its not that simple. I personally would not have been mentally able to continue with a pregnancy knowing that I would never see that child again. It would have been cruel to me to continue a pregnancy with no hope of keeping the child at the end.
Don't get me wrong, I really do feel for all those people out there in the world who are unable to have children. I really do. But at the end of the day, it was my decision to end my pregnancy there and then.
2007-08-06 08:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by jeckle_freckle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abortion for me is wrong, this government helps single moms and there's a lot you can do to keep your baby, if it's 'impossible' then give it up for adoption...I've been told Jack Nicholson (the actor) came from a father raping his own daughter, so his father is his grandfather and his mother is his sister as well...how sick huh? but he's a happy man and makes great movies! you always have to give the baby what they deserve, they're in you for a reason! Would you have liked your mother to abort you? I'm sure there's a lot of people here that come from broken families and not the PERFECT parents, but are still HERE!!! YOU were given the opportunity to come live this life! why wouldn't you give that opportunity to another human being!?!!??! come on! the heart starts beating at 18-21 days!!!! it's life...and I'm sure before the heart starts beating there's some kind of vibration going on to make it grow! we're all LIFE...
2007-08-10 16:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would recomend adoption. but at the end of the day some people not in a relationship have a hard decision. not all people can bring up a child on their own. some arent supported by family. what about rape victims who become pregnant, its not the child fault but its not the moithers fault either - so what would you do? its is hard to judge someone just becasue they have had an abortion. it is a difficult decision to make that first step. children are a blessing and aboption is great giving a little life to a couple unable to have children. but think of some reasons why people do it - not every1 who has an abortion is heartless.
take care
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2007-08-05 08:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally I would not have an abortion but I can feel for the girls who do that are really young or got pregnant through a rape. If my own daughter was still in high school or got pregnant through rape I believe I would take her to an abortion clinic if that is what she wanted. A pregnancy can ruin a person's life if it happened under tragic circumstances. This is my own grandchild I would abort. Hurt me as much as it would, my love and the welfare of my daughter would come first. You can never judge someone else until you walked in their shoes. Not all girls that get abortions are whores that think only of their well being, but if a careless self absorbed woman had an abortion just because the baby was an inconvenience who am I to judge her? That is just my opinion of her. Abortion is a very personal decision and what may seem right or wrong to you and me is not necessarily what someone else may think.
2007-08-05 06:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by checkthisout! 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How do you feel about spending 9 months creating a human being, and then giving it away to strangers? I never could have an abortion, but I think that people who really hate abortion should focus on helping pregnant women have and KEEP their babies, not trying to make them hand their kids off to someone with more money. You might actually prevent a few abortions if you'd help women have the third choice.
2007-08-11 01:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by rhea b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pro-choice but I am 33 1/2 weeks pregnant. I dont think anyone has any right to tell a woman she has to have a baby she does not want to have. If you feel that way, your narrow minded and should just keep your mouth shut. There are so many babies in the foster care and adoption systems that most of them end up staying there until they are 18. Is that the kind of life you want for your baby? What if the baby is a result of rape or incest? Should the woman have to keep the baby so people like you are happy? I don't think so.
2007-08-05 09:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by MIPerson 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Fist of all caring a unbornbaby and carrying it for 9 months is not something anyone would do, besides giving birth is not a very neat process especcially for a baby you are not going to have in your life, and just going to give to someone else.
There are many born babies you are not well taken care of, so that young couple take one of them as well. Why an innocent baby should be thrown into misery? Why bring it to Earth if you are not sure it will be taken care of?
Being a mother is for sure one of best things on Earth but, i think if the baby is not wanted it is sure to be aborted.
Most people think about the well being of the new comer but what about the woman, her social and economic status should also be considered.
..by the way, excuse me if I'm too harsh, but have you ever given a birth or watched a real birth? not from internet but assisting, blood dripping on your hands? or a cesarian op.?
2007-08-05 07:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by Algaia 1 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Abortion is not a belief - it is a procedure. I don't need to "believe in abortion" for it to exist.
Why would you force another woman to undergo dramatic and permanent changes to her body and risk heath and welfare just to bring another person in the world when there are already so many here? Why can't a couple that can't have children adopt children that are already out there? Because they're not infants does not mean that they're less of a child in need of a home.
Beggars can't be choosers and shouldn't force others to provide exactly what they want for them when it isn't a necessity.
2007-08-05 09:20:08 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋