Do you think many adult men still need a motherly type figure in their life?

Question

I said earlier that women need a father figure in their life after they get married and that it should be their husband. Well, I also believe that men need a motherly type figure in a way. By motherly, I mean men need someone to clean up after them, cook their meals, pack their lunch, remind them of appointments, take care of them when they are sick, and do the grocery shopping.

Okay, so I basically gave a brief definition of a wife...but my point is, that men provide fatherly attributes to women and women provide motherly attributes to men. However, it isn't 100%, just parts of those qualities are needed.

Answer 1

Well, I think that kind of treatment goes both ways. I clean during the week, but my husband does everything for me on the weekends so I don't have to. We take turns cooking for each other. He usually has to remind me of everything as I forget a lot. I cook him lunch from time to time, but most of the time, he goes to lunch with friends from his work. We do grocery shopping together, and I know he likes to be left alone when he is sick, so I usually tuck him in bed, give him some water and leave him alone, though with me, i like to be held, so he rents my favorite movies and holds me to make me feel better.

I feel it's more about complimenting each other than being a certain part.

Answer 2

Honey, if a wife needs her father,

And a husband needs his mother...

They are not adults, they are children.

You said: "men need someone to clean up after them, cook their meals, pack their lunch, remind them of appointments, take care of them when they are sick, and do the grocery shopping."

You describe the attributes of a child and then assign them to an adult male.

I have 3 adult brothers, 45, 44, and 40 years old. They can perform all of the tasks you describe. They are Good Men, in every sense of the word.

Why would you want to emasculate a perfectly capable man?

Answer 3

I'd say, the unfortunate answer is yes. Many men do need a mother-figure in their lives. In my experience, they were either spoiled by their mothers when young, never taught how to do for themselves, or emotionally stunted in some way.

I can say that I've been a mother-figure in past relationships. It's just in my nature to take care of others and to put others first. You know what? That's always been one of the main things that killed my relationships too. Now, as an adult, I refuse to let myself be a mother-figure. I won't "take care" of another man again. If there is something he needs from me, he can ask me.

Answer 4

What people look for in a "sole mate" males usually look for a women that’s like there mom and women look for a man that’s like there dad only if that person played a role in their life. That’s kind of why most of the time mother in-laws are a pain in the butt well maybe not but its true lol

Answer 5

I wouldn't be too concerned just yet. it could just bee his imagination. However if it happens again maybe get out your camera and take pictures of where he says the man is and see if anything comes up. Next you should talk to him about the man. Ask him questions about him:.hair clothes of he's seen him before that type of stuff if it continues see a doctor or psychologist

Answer 6

It's important that wife fulfills this motherly role without the negative maternal characteristics, such as nagging, etc. She needs to mother him yet treat him like a man.

Answer 7

Statistically, men choose the women they marry based on their mothers. Some choose women who are like their moms, and some choose women who are nothing like them.
As for women, they choose men who are like their dads. (I tend to be most attracted to men who are serious, intelligent, and well-read. My dad is that way.) There is nothing unusual about it-it's human nature. Our parents give us a general perception of what men and women are "supposed" to be like. We choose our mates based on that because it's something that is close to our heart, it's comfortable, and close to home. I hope that makes sense.

Answer 8

You obviously have some dependency issues. You will always need your mother in your life. But, what you are requesting is a MAID. Grow some balls and be independent.

Answer 9

My ex-husband got married as soon as he could after our divorce. I believe it was because he needed a mommy. It was obvious to me he could not wipe himself by the stains in his underwear so I hope he found what he needed.

Answer 10

Only emotionally stunted men. Marriage is a partnership, not slavery.