Poll: Would you say that women should primarily be responsible for homemaking and raising children...?

Question

while men are responsible for protecting and providing for their family? I don't want this to influence your answers here, but all this 50/50 equality for male and female really weird me out. I mean, men are meant to do masculine things while women were meant to do feminine things. That is how I see it.

Answer 1

Fine, you can see it that way, but that doesn't mean we can't be 50/50 equals. Females can still be 'feminine', males can still be 'masculine'. But there are lines as to what is 'masculine' and what is 'feminine'. THAT is what many people have problems with. Such as you limiting females, and what we can and cannot do. What we should or should not do. What we wear, how we speak, how we WALK even. And where we can go. Even on a elevator it's wrong to you to see a female there. Especially if she doesn't have a 'male guardian'. I mean, think about that one question you asked, about what color of gum would be appropriate for a female to chew. THAT, was taking it too far, and in many aspect you continue that but you just don't see it as that way. Where as female, someone who lives, has lived, forced to live, anything like that, see, feels, and thinks something entirely different then what a male could and/or can think. Because we LIVE IT. It is how WE are treated and YOU think WE should be treated. So I ask again, put yourself in OUR position, the FEMALE'S position, and see if YOU would like to be treated that way.

Not all females are comfortable in skirts, not all females like children, are good with children, or even want children. Not all females want to become housekeepers or wives, or anything like that. Some would like to pursue a dream career, or be the first female to do something, or follow in the footsteps of one of the females that DID do something first. (A female can have a male icon like that as well and pursue that). In some aspects, yes. I do feel it is the primarily the males job to protect and provide. BUT, if the person we are talking about is a SINGLE mothers, or widow, or someone who just does no want a relationship, then I don't feel she should have to get one just so she can pay her bills. She can work just like any male can. She CAN, take care of herself. You need understand that part of a person’s life where they do not have some. And understand the part where they are not married. You need to understand that in a two income house especially, it is very unfair for the mother or wife to have to do everything. Because she works too. And so since both parents or people work, it is only fair that both help around the house. At a certain time if they do have children, then the children or child can help with cooking and/or cleaning. Doesn't matter if the child ad/or children are male or female, they are just help their parents. (Or parent.!) To be treated different for something you had NO say in, for being born the 'wrong gender' or mixed Race, or anything, is completely wrong.

All 'N' all, I hope now you have a better understanding of the opposite side to this. I hope this has made you think a bit........

Answer 2

Dear Sandstorm222,
What times are you living in?

New bulletin men can do just as good raising the children while mother works. I feel some men have been robbed enough of having that time spend with their children and maybe a lot more should step to the plate and do this sort life style.
It should be a 50- 50 partner ship, so therefore how ever works best for them at that given time then go for it.

Maybe then a lot of women wouldn't be so stressed out and robbed of their self capabilities more so than a mother or wife.

Did it ever cross your mind that some prefer working and some prefer staying at home?

Anyhow so much cost of living today has put father & mother to work with no choice but both work or be out in the cold.

Just my 2 cents worth, for all it's worth. I do want to say that I admire your thought on women being treated like a lady.
Any women would be proud to have you as their partner, I think.
Thank you.
Sandra

Answer 3

An honest moment, Sandstorm?

"All this 50/50 equality for male and female really weird me out."

Yeah, I think we know this.

See, hon, years before you were born, there was something called "The Sexual Revolution":

One suggested trigger for the modern revolution was the development of the birth control pill in 1960, which gave women access to easy and reliable contraception. Another likely factor was vast improvements in obstetrics, which greatly reduced the number of women who die in childbirth and thus increases the life expectancy of women. Other data suggest the "revolution" was more directly influenced by the financial independence gained by many women who entered the workforce during and after World War II, making the revolution more about individual equality rather than biological independence. Many people, however, feel that one specific cause cannot be selected for this large phenomenon.[1] See source below.

Ok, so we have the sexual revolution.

Women adapt. We work, take care of the house and the kids, cook, and take care of our men.

Men sort of adapted. Some did, some didn't. Divorce rates soared.

What makes you such an anomaly is that you were born well after the revolution.

Women's social status in the US, the right's they have earned, politically correct interaction between adult male and female, all elude you.

You're so young. You should be in the generation that just accepts this as the norm. After all, this all had it's earliest orgins back in the 1920's.

Sooner or later, hon, you are going to have to deal with people on their level. You may find people who tolerate your views, but if you are going to function in an adult relationship, you have to come to terms.

You can't say to your female boss, "Sweetie, since you're a woman, I'll sharpen your pencils for you instead of doing the reports like you asked."

Women respond negatively to the dripping sweet manipulative condesention you espouse. It insults one's intelligence.

I believe that deep down man wants to rule his home and woman wants to allow that. Yes, the instinctive draw to each sex's role is there.

Unfortunately, we cannot make this work. The reason it no longer exists is because even when it was practiced it did not work.

Maybe we're not teaching enough about Respect and Equality.

No one wants a whiney roommate who trashes the place and won't pick up, and constantly tries to manipulate their time.

No One wants that in a spouse.

Learn to be responsible for your own activites of daily living. Then apply those skills to your family. It's fun when you do it together.

That's another reason people like to blow you out of the water. You take all the fun out of it.

What ever happened to sitting together and plotting how you wanted things to go..."or we could do this" or " or we can do that" and laughing together.

You make it all such a burden.

Chill. Share a laugh with someone you love. Life is good.

Answer 4

Well if we take this back to 2nd World War it is 50/50.
But now days, i'd say the man should be able to help raise the children and provide for the family.

Answer 5

Yes, but only if they have a good husband who provides for the family and takes care of them. I love being a homemaker, but not all women have a good man who supports them, like my husband does. Some women don't have a choice to stay at home and be a homemaker.

Answer 6

I have seen women who are the ones providing for the family financially..and they do just as well as men. Men can stay home with the kids as well as mom..but most have a job.
I think the only reason women ever were the ones always staying home was because they were the ones to give birth and feel they need to stay with their young to nurture them.

Answer 7

I do agree to some. I am a female who has worked when she wanted. No pressure for anything.
I think Women wanted to prove a point. Also they were suppressed.
But children are best with Mother. She is the best person for a child's education and character building. I did my part. Result shows. And it also made children strong when it was reqd.

Unfortunately, most earning men want a control on finances and all when they are sole earners. It is sad that it is men who made women want to prove she is superwomen.

Answer 8

Yeah, if the man makes enough money to cover home insurance, multiple car insurance(cause i need to go "grocery" shopping", healthcare ( & not some cheap crap, i want dental, optical & dermatological too), can afford to buy the organic food that i want, take care of the kids expenses, OH yes, & their college too, i need to get my hair done, & my monthly personal item shopping, food, bills, & other luxury items that a regular household needs, yeah sure, if one income is good enough to do all that, then i'm down to stay home. So unless my husband is a CEO, that aint happenin. Keep dreaming bud.

Answer 9

I don't see how raising children and taking care of the house is feminine or masculine. I see both as both. Both should be responsible.

Answer 10

If that man IS, acually, masculine. If hes a little wimp who spends his time acting all tough and in control on the internet while his girlfriend (if he acually has one) is probaly cheating on him with a guy who belives in womens rights, i dotn see how he can protect and provide for his family...