Poll: Do you believe a wife or girlfriend is to obey her man if he tells her to get off the computer?

Question

This could be for any reason such as he wanted her to cook dinner, go to bed, put the kids in bed, etc.

Answer 1

Not at all. I don't think so.

Answer 2

A. Regarding computer usage
1. If he owns the computer, or pays for the internet connection, he has the right to ask any user to stop using at any time, especially if he needs to use it.
2. I don't think this has anything to do with the gender of the owner or the user. That is a separate issue if the couple has certain expectations on behavior based on gender roles.

B. Regarding the household
In general, if he pays for the house and bills, and if the AGREEMENT is that he is in charge, then she should respect the agreement she has made to live under his roof. Again, I don't think this has anything to do with the gender of the owner or residents, but is common courtesy. Even if a woman is the one in charge of the household, and a male resident has agreed to live under the rules and conditions she sets. People tend to compound this issue with gender roles, because of expectations they project from past perceptions of relationships and marriage, especially what they grew up with.

If the couple does not have an agreement, they need to get one so that these sort of jurisdictional/authority issues do not come up. From my experience, where partners work out an agreement, there is no need to "command" or order people to do this or that because they communicate and share freely.
Only if there is not an agreement, so that people are challenging each other and overstepping bounds, does the communication and relation become strained where it leads to these sort of conflicts.

Answer 3

And what about the guys who spend all their time on the computer playing games? Should he obey his woman when she tells him to get off the computer? This could be for any reason such as she wanted him to mow the lawn, pay the bills, change the oil in the car, etc.

Answer 4

Ok, this would be easier to answer if you didn't elaborate.

A) If someone is making a request for your time and attention, then yes, you need to get off the computer and address the live person.

B) If someone is harrassing you because they cannot manipulate your time while you are on the computer, then no, that person needs to learn some appropriate behaviors.

I do have issue with the word "obey". If I was so thrilled with the word "obey", I'd have stayed home with my parents 30 years ago.

The whole point in growing up and moving out was to gain my independence.

So, for issue No. 3:

Obey: If you need to be "obey" someone you are still a child, and therefore, too young to be married.

Answer 5

No way. Now thats some lazy guy and i'd throw him out the house straight away if he tried to rule over me.
If im doing somthing important like work on the computer and hes got nothing to do, he can cook dinner or what ever needs doing.
Its not the women that has to do everything, if they are his kids too he should have no problem with putting the kids to bed. :D

Answer 6

If what she is doing is important, then he should have the common courtesy to cook dinner for his wife and/or put the children to bed. But a boyfriend has NO RIGHT to tell his girlfriend what to do. And I doubt you would want a female to actually be living with a male, her boyfriend, so she should not have to cook him dinner. Besides, females are a lot like males. We have two legs, two arms, no floppy ears, no tail, and we have the freedom males do, as we should. So we do NOT obey. We are humans, we are to be treated with respect, not giving orders like a dog. With all you expect us to do for you, your doing to give us orders??? Treat us like dogs and take away our Independence and rights that we have earned??? THAT is NOT right!!!

Answer 7

I think that there is difference between respect and obey. Respect is doing something because you respect another persons request. Obey is what you do with parents because you are a child. Hopefully you can separate the two and not treat this person like you are a controlling person.You will wind up getting resentment and not respect. People respond in most instances according to how you treat them.

Answer 8

I think that the man could cook dinner, go to bed, put the kids in bed, etc. too!

Answer 9

that would be a big no. you are not her boss. can you not make your self a sandwich ? there your kids to you put them to bed. time to go to bed. what are you afraid of the dark. now with that said. i have always believed as a wife its my job to see that my husband has a clean home when he comes in from work and a hot meal on his table.. its was always easier for me to put the kids to bed then it was for there dad. and a many of night i wasn't ready for sleep and got back up after he went to sleep and played card on-lone for a while..you see i do those things for him just as he gets up and goes to work ever day for me so that i want have to.i do not or would not do any of these things because i was told too. its called respect and you either have it for some one or you dont.

Answer 10

LMAO .... *gasp* ...... ROFL

That would be a giant no. I don't 'obey' anyone, especially any man. No man, or woman for that matter, has the right to control the movements and activities of any other man or woman. The days of women being property are long gone. Kindly crawl out of the cave.

As for your examples ... he can cook his own dinner, sleep without his hand being held or be a father and put his own children to bed. Is he a man or a child that needs babysitting?

Answer 11

Uhhh... no. Those are stupid, inane "reasons." Why can't HE go cook dinner or put the kids in bed...? It's not exclusively a woman's job to do that stuff.

He may ask NICELY, but she may refuse.