I alternate between hating and feeling sorry for him. He literally has no hobbies or friends. All he does is go to work, then come home and do stuff with my Mother.
If she's busy or out with her friends, he just sits in front of the television drinking alcohol. Or he'll keep calling her on her cell phone.
He has no interest in me or my sister. he only spends time with us if my Mother is spending time with us.
WHY?!
2007-08-04 19:48:07 · 18 answers · asked by Panky_Hanky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it's normal for adults, when they get older, to stick closer to home. Many elderly people, men especially, prefer to stay at home and watch TV, because as they grow older, they don't have as much energy as they used to. If your father is still young, though, he could be going through depression, a sympton of which is lack of interest in many things they used to enjoy.
Your dad may just be lonely. Since he calls your mother often when she's away, I doubt he enjoys being alone. Maybe he wishes he could spend time with you, but he feels awkward because he doesn't feel as close to you as he thinks he should. He might regret not spending time with you, but thinks that it is too late to start a relationship with you. I'd suggest that you invite him to go out somewhere - a football game, a movie, something that won't tire him out. If he still shows no interest or declines you, then ask your mom to help you voice your concerns and maybe suggest he go to a therapist or try medication for depression. It's not really healthy for anybody, no matter what their age, to be so secluded.
2007-08-04 19:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by CherryPie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That does sound strange - well, give him credit for being faithful to your mother, though. But he does seem a little bit troubled or perhaps depressed. I don't know why he doesn't do other activities or go out with friends or something, but maybe that's just his personality.
But you hinted at an alcoholism problem. This may be a sign of him trying to deal with trouble at work or depression. Perhaps you should consult with your mother about whether he should get counseling or therapy. Try to help out your father by showing that you care about his well-being. Good luck.
2007-08-04 19:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Adel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well today I see alot of people/family who are doing the same thing, it could be many things, heres a few. Maybe he had it hard growing up, Maybe its stress of life, Maybe he cant show love so he backs off, drinking is a sign of weakness(is a fact) they hide from life so to say. Dont think im saying this to be rude im not, some people have some type of mental problems which they hide. My father couldnt show real love to us, we think its his past with his father,, but yet deep down he does love us, but cant show it,, sounds odd but true.. well I wish you luck..
2007-08-04 20:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After the couple gets married, he can apply for a citizenship after being a greencard holder for 3 years. Then he can invite his kids over 18 to live in america. once the kids are over 18, they're considered adults and they do not get the permanent residency automatically.
2016-05-18 04:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by lilian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why everybody assumes something is wrong.
Maybe he really does enjoy what he's doing.
If he's happy, then why interfere with their relationship?
If your mom doesn't want him calling so much, then she has to be the one to tell him that. But maybe they both are fine with it. And lots of people sit in front of the TV relaxing. That isn't necessarily a red flag. The one thing I would do, is let one of them know that you are feeling a bit left out.
Then go from there...
2007-08-04 20:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like he s from the older generation who believed that it was work and sleep and hardly do nothing and tired at the end of the day and now hes not much to do. but drink and this is hard for him. hes not to play with his kids he wouldn't even know how to. its sad but that was his life and he'll probably be this way to the end.
2007-08-08 14:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i have similar issues with my parents, except it's my mother that acts clingy and not my father. i agree though that parents need to have lives seperate from one another.
i mean if both of them were totally happy with the way things are then i would totally tell you not to worry about it.
but if your dad is drinking, has no interest in his children and calls her constantly, i think there is reason to be concerned
2007-08-04 20:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Original_Syn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is depressed, oppressed, and repressed.
Need more info. Do they fight, is she controlling/abusive, does he drink too much?
He is not happy, that's for sure. You, as his child have no control over that and it is not your responsibility. Moreover, it is not your fault.
I would suppose mom is abusive or controlling in some way.
2007-08-04 19:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to get off his duff,and start spending time with his children,before his children are all grown up and moved out maybe your mom should tell him that
2007-08-08 12:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him? Nothing beats getting the answer from the persons involved.
2007-08-04 19:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋