should a girl or guy leave their boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse for being told what they can and can NOT do?
2007-08-04 19:39:28 · 8 answers · asked by Ree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is this about who I think it's about?? Or someone/something completely different?
Anyway.. you know my opinion on this.. you 'should', anyway.
But yeah, basically.. NO! No one should ******* stand for being controlled.. and for the people who're being controlled and they don't realize it until it's too late.. I feel bad for them.. especially when their friends see it, and they try to tell their friend what's goin' on, but the friend doesn't listen 'cause they don't wanna believe it.
It's bullshit to be controlled....
2007-08-04 20:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by unh0ly_freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think who ever this is happening to should sit down and talk normally to the person who is doing the controlling and lay it all out on the table. Make sure and tell them everything they have done to controll you in the past, present, and the future. Then ask them what the reason is that they think they need to be controlling. Then ask them to stop and I'm sure that who ever it is will get mad, cause a person who likes to controll other people has anger issues, if that happens tell them that it is tearing your life apart and the relationship, tell them that if it don't stop then you will have to leave after everything else don't work. If you love that person then you need to do some serious thinking if you want to leave them, because I tell you what, there are plenty of guys and girls who just want to love you out there without having to controll you. You have to decide whether or not it's worth staying with that person for the rest of your life. I left my ex because her controlling me was out of controll. Good luck
2007-08-05 02:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sweetie, if you or anyone else is in a situation where someone is trying to set the rules for what you can or can not do, when it comes to what you would like to do. It is not their right nor their responsibility to tell you what you can or can not do. Yes, they are trying to control your movements or actions.
If someone is trying to tell you what they don't like you doing and it pertains to them, and what they will or will not accept from you, that is setting boundaries.
Examples, A person tells you that they don't like the new friend you have and they don't want you to be friends with them anymore. THAT IS CONTROLLING
A person tells you that they don't like the new friend you have, and they don't want you to bring them around when you two are together. THAT IS SETTING BOUNDARIES
The first examples says you can't have that friend and me too, the second example says you can have that friend but I dont want to be friends with them.
If a person is trying to control you and what you do, say, or think, basically make you into a clone of them, cause most controler think that they are always right, and for you to be right too you must be just like them, and basically that is what they are trying to do, is to make you like them, not yourself.
In answer to your question, YES, YES, YES run , run fast, run far, and run immediately..
I have been in a controlling relationship and tried for 14 years to re-invent myself into the person I was with. I am here to tell you it isn't possible, we are all different and we are not going to be like the controller, and you are never, and yes, I use that word firmly, You will never, be exactly the way they want you to be, nor will you be good enough.
So, why put yourself through heartache, pain, and suffering, cause that is all that will come of it.
2007-08-05 02:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing, you have a mind and a mouth. If my guy ever told me that I could not do something that I wanted to do, I'd tell him that I was doing it anyway....along with some #%! telling him what he could do with his demands.
If he thought he was telling me not to do something because he was afraid I'd get hurt and he was worried about me, I'd tell him that he needs to communicate that some other way. I'll discuss it or debate with him, but still let him know that in the end it was my choice.
However, if I felt threatened in any way, I'd leave him.
2007-08-05 02:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ariel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No., I do not control or own my Sweetie and he does not control or own me. We mutually respect each other, care about each other, and love each other. And what a wonderful love that is!
2007-08-05 04:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your boyfriend/spouse telling you to do.......no one sould tell you what to do in a relationship if it keeps going on it will only get wores
2007-08-05 03:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, can't do this, we are human, not doll or pet, we can give advice, is up to them to take it or not, we can't control their mind and behaviour just bcoz there are our bf/gf/spouses, they got their own freedom.
2007-08-05 02:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by moonrider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes a girl should. They can do better
2007-08-05 03:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋