hey. im in my first relationship ever and we will have been together for 8 months on Monday. It's pretty nice when you think about that. However, I doubt how much I love him sometimes. I mean dont get me wrong... he is sweet, loving, caring and a complete gentlemen and of course, a total hottie. Our sex drive for each other is way off the charts! There are some problems though. We fight often. He thinks it's because we're away from each other at the moment. This summer I had to go to home. See, I met him in college and I had to go home for the summer so we have been missing each other and it's been real hard! During school, I was used to seeing him just about every other day, even if it was for a few minutes, it was still awesome! Well, anyways, we have different views on almost everything. Our interests can be quite different but it has its similarites every now and then. I talk to him about this and he thinks as long as we're in love, none of that matters but it bothers me a lot.....
2007-08-04 19:36:57 · 7 answers · asked by Shayyyyy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and then I ask myself... do i love him? because i feel like i might just be going with him because he is my first boyfriend so i feel like im supposed to stay? i dont know. please help!!!
2007-08-04 19:38:00 · update #1
I see it like this,, its your first which is fine,, most of the time the first always mostly are real love, to the one, the other may have other ideas later, I seen many like this.. so far... So you may indeed really love him, which is meant to be forever,, or should be, Now the thing is this,, Is he really in love with you, or is it just a thing... the only way to know is for you to talk to him, dig deep into his heart, look good at it, and be a judge so to say,, its your future, so if you mess it up? the reason maybe you didnt see his heart (what he's saying) to you that well.... so you need to really be awake when you talk to him.. good luck
2007-08-04 21:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you answered your question, maybe you do feel like you have to stay with this guy because hes your first relationship. and the guy doesn't have to be ugly for you to feel like this. i think you have to have some things in common atleast your morals, values and things you beleive in and the rest will follow along like hobbies, your favorite movies, colors, watever. and i dont think just being in love solves everything you also have to pitch in. and i think you guys fighting is also a reflection on your relationship, you should try talking about the things you fight about and try to figure out ways to fix some things in your relationship. if that doesnt work maybe even take a break i know you said it was hard but mybe it was hard because it was like a routine. when you do something always and all the sudden stop you are going to miss it no matter what[so long as the thing is a good thing] and see how you are w/out him on school and if you reall, really need him
2007-08-04 19:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by adenine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not IN LOVE with him....if you fight, you might care for him a great deal..but you don't really love him to get married today with him, are you? and if you are having sex and fighting too..then you should stop sex, work out the problem with fighting, then start up again..but wait a week or so until you have fixed it....sex just clouds the issues..nothing else....Be careful with this....Trust me....
2007-08-04 19:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by lodger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your final hypothesis may not be wrong---
similarites keep couples together but if they are just a few...hmmm...not easy-
Love is affection, sharing, attraction, feeling good, romantic desire and main components: Intimacy, commitment, and Passion...Great sex is not great love--
If you don´t feel good about it...think it over, When you love the right one you know it in your heart...
2007-08-04 20:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have alot of things that are different let me tell you they do not change and this is a problem it will never cure itself and it can cause problems yes first love can be hard to drop but there is a time and place you are doubting already so you need to moveon and find new person this one isn't for you.
2007-08-08 14:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 25 years,and let me tell you my husband and i have had many arguments,but i still love him,everybody argues,i like arguing sometimes,because making up is a lot of fun,and remember don't ever go to bed mad,and not talking,it is much better to make up
2007-08-08 12:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might b thinkin u need to stay w/ him cuz of tht reason i think if u honestly can't say u hav the same feelings for him u shuld brake up
2007-08-04 19:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by lovelylady7950 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋